(Closed) Am I going crazy?

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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3886 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’ve never been in that situation but then again, I wouldn’t accept the request to be in the bridal party for someone I didn’t really know well or didn’t like.  What surprises me is that this bride found multiple people who don’t like her to all say Yes when asked to be in the bridal party!

All I can say is, I really hope they have a lot of wine for you!

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@fishbone:  +1 

That is sooooo sad! I feel really bad for the bride (although she does sound painfully clueless) – and for the awkward position you’re in. 

I would not say anything before or after the wedding. Just let things happen as they will. It’s still her big day and ignorance is bliss 🙂

Post # 6
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3886 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

No booze at the wedding  =  Santa’s gonna have to bring someone a little flask for christmas.

Post # 7
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1306 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Wow, that is really difficult. I am surprised she found so many people who clearly do not like her – to stand with her on her wedding day. I would be devastated if my BM’s stopped talking to me after the wedding.

 

Post # 8
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109 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Sadly, I think this happens more than you know. I have plenty of friends who don’t speak to one or members of the wedding party after the big day. That makes me think there must have been some animosity before the wedding that the bride was unaware of.

And, I’m currently in this situation, I am a Bridesmaid or Best Man and I feel like the only reason the bride talks to me is because I’m a bridesmaid. And, I only think I am a Bridesmaid or Best Man because she needed numbers… now I wish I would’ve said no. I don’t dislike her or anything that strong but I just really don’t feel like we’re actually friends anymore. I’m betting she won’t call or talk to me after the wedding (we live 12 hours apart).

Kinda stinks. I don’t want to step down because that would definitely end our friendship but I also sort of feel like our friendship will functionally be over in a few months anyway. But, I said yes, and being a bridesmaid isn’t terrible or anything so I’m just going to do it for her, since she was my friend. I think she’s just clueless. I’ve tried to make her realize that there’s more to maintaining a friendship but I’m not sure she’s getting it. I figure, I’ll give her a ring after her honeymoon and see how it went and then the balls in her court to give me a ring to say hello.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

@honeyboo2u32:  I wouldn’t even tell the bride after the wedding. It’s not your business who likes her and who doesn’t especially since you are not a close friend, or even a good friend.

It sucks that no one likes her, and why she asked girls she was not close with (or why they accepted) is beyond me.

However, I recently learned that some people don’t understand that friendship – like all relationships – take work. Your bride might not understand that.

Also remember that girls can be super catty… and maybe your fellow BMs just happen to be that way.

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