Post # 1
My cousin is having her baby shower July 21, i am due July 12 (but could go early)……i want to go to her shower but i really dont know if i am gonna wanna leave my brand new baby at home for a couple hours, i think i will miss him to much. hubby would be watching him so thats not an issue at all. not sure if kids are invited to the shower, but i dont know if i would wnat to bring him becuase i wouldnt want to steal any attention on her big day. Plus he will be realyl young at that point and dont know if he would hold up for a cuople hours somewhere. anyways, what would you do?
do i need to get over it and leave him at home? not going to the shower isnt really an option since i am really close to this cousin and her mom (my aunt who is also helping throw my baby shower)
Post # 3
@stargal34: If you’re nursing you might just want to see if bringing him would be out of the question. Baby showers In My Humble Opinion should be baby friendly. 2 weeks is pretty young, at that point you’re still majorly into bonding, recovery, full sleep deprivation. Maybe I’m weird, but I never wanted a “break” within that first month. It’s probably wise to play it by ear.
Post # 4
I’m not a mom, but I wouldn’t want to leave my 2 week old baby either! Every baby shower I’ve been to has had other babies, though, so I would just say bring him! Can you check with your cousin or her mom to see if you can bring your baby?
Post # 5
I think at two weeks old (or older) to be gone for a couple of hours might be a welcome break. If you did end up taking him he woiuld probably sleep through the entire thing, babies at that age sleep pretty much all the time. I would talk to your cousin or her mom when the time comes and see how they would feel about him being there.
Post # 6
@KatyElle: I agree. I’m not a mother, not expecting, but from what I’ve always seen and been around, a newborn of two weeks old pretty much goes where mommy goes. I don’t think anyone would be offended if you did bring him and then had to leave a little early, etc. I mean I would just approach them about it and ask if they would be ok with you bringing the baby since you won’t be able to leave him for too long to come to the shower. I can’t imagine anyone denying a new mommy her baby of two weeks old, especially with you making such a big effort to be there two weeks after giving birth.
Post # 7
I’m in the same boat. I have a wedding to go to 2 weeks after my due date. Then a couple weeks after that my bff is due with her first baby. A month after that my cousin is due and another month after that my other friend is due. I will most likely be bringing baby to each of these events. I’m not too concerned about whether having a newborn there is appropriate or not. It’s not like I will be showing my LO off in any way. I say take your LO to the baby shower!
Post # 8
I have a 2 week old, and there is no way I could stomach leaving him, even with my husband, for a few hours. My little guy is really Mommy centered, and exclusively breastfed (and feeds every 1.5-2.5 hours during the day right now).
Post # 9
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
Take him with you. It shouldn’t be a problem. Babies that young are usually sleeping and quiet during the day. It’s at night that they can be a problem.
Post # 10
I’m not a mom, but I work in pediatrics and I just worry for that 2 week old baby around all those people!!! All those hands and all those germs… And how sick newborns get =( If you bring your newborn, make everyone wash their hands and be vaccinated and stuff!!!! Lol. I’m super paranoid because I see crazy infectious disease all the time. =( Are you breastfeeding?? That will be much better if you are.
ETA: I do agree, if you do bring your baby out, i think it would be perfectly acceptable and not inappropriate or anything.
Post # 11
If you’re exclusively breastfeeding then it’s not likely that you’d be able to leave your baby that long OR take him for that matter given growth spurts. Every growth spurt Dear Daughter has gone through has been a very TRYING day or two of her being very back and forth of wanting to nurse and kinda falling asleep, wanting to nurse, fussying, etc.
If baby isn’t ebf or you’re able to pump then I’d say go without your lo…. SERIOUSLY mommy NEEDS mommy time. Even if you feel fine that day not having it, you may need it a few days from then and it not be feasible. Take the time when you can… that’s my advice. lol
I wouldn’t worry about baby getting sick though… I’ve always taken both DS and Dear Daughter all kinds of places and never been like “OMG wash your hands” and I’ve never had issues with either of them getting sick. I mean DS has only had antibiotics twice, once for an ear infection, and he’s 7.
Post # 12
i think emotionally you would be fine to leave him for a couple of hours. only issue is things that PPs have mentioned like breast feeding. Although i also see nothing wrong with bringing a baby to a baby shower.
Post # 13
I think this is a tough decision to make ahead of time. See if your cousin will be flexible. She should understand. You never know, if you are 9 days overdue, like I was, you’ll be in labour while they’re at her shower. 🙂
Post # 14
@MalbecMe: if you are 9 days overdue, like I was, you’ll be in labour while they’re at her shower. 🙂
Oh & there is that aspect too… it may very well be a non-issue (I went 12 days past due)
Post # 15
I’ve seen newborns at baby showers before. It makes it all more exciting for the mommy to be as well. =)
Post # 16
Where will the shower be held? If it’s in someone’s home, you could see about bringing a cradle or pack n play (or whatever newborns sleep in that’s portable, I don’t know) and setting it up in a bedroom, then cliping on your baby monitor. Maybe see if the hostess minds if you bring a trusted, non-involved friend to rock or cuddle the baby out of sight so you don’t steal the attention… AND you get a little break.
This is suggested based on what we’re planning for my wedding. If she delivers exactly on time, my sister/MOH will have a 5-day old baby on my wedding day! She’s arranged for her mother-in-law to come down that weekend and keep the baby close by and happy the whole day, but away from the 200 people and their germs. She’ll be at the church with baby in the nursery, and in a quiet room at the reception hall duing dinner – then sis will take her home. That way baby is close for nursing and emergency cuddles, but well looked after and safe from all the hubbub.