Post # 17
I think the hostess of the shower, and the bride to be, should understand that you can’t give a definite yes or no until you have the baby. There are so many factors to consider– for one, you could go late and have a 1 week old, not 2 week old; you could be exclusively breastfeeding, or not, things happen; you could end up having a c-section and really not be recovered enough to go out to a party anyway…
If I was you, I’d let them know you want to come but don’t know yet, and find out if it’s ok if you bring the baby and what the options are, then decide once you actually have the baby and see how you feel.
I’m not a mom, but I can’t imagine being able to leave my two week old for an afternoon. I also think babies should always be welcome at baby showers, but I know not everyone feels that way so best to ask now.
Post # 18
thanks everyone for all teh advice! i think im gona talk to her and give her the heads up about my decision when/how baby comes. that will be a huge factor that i need to think about… im not worried about going past my due date bc im high risk nad the doctros will not let me go past 40 weeks at all. but who knows if i might need a csection, etc…. i plan of breastfeeding and pumping. i think if i can go, i will end up taking him with me (after i talk to the momma to be) only drawback is that its at a fancy seafood place (kinda fancy for a baby shower) BUT its not like he is gonna be running around or anything. LOL.
Post # 19
@stargal34: I don’t know if this is possible for you but i just went to bridal shower where there was a girl who JUST had a baby like 2 weeks before that….and she brought her 15yr old daughter with the baby upstairs the whole time (we were on the main floor & her daughter took the baby upstairs to the bedrooms).
Basically you could bring a sitter or something like a nanny or a sibling & have them watch the baby…they wouldnt be part of the party I guess but theyd b there:)
Post # 21
My son is eight weeks and I was more than happy to leave him for a couple hours at 5 days! My mom stayed with us for the first couple of weeks and encouraged us to get out every few days, just the two of us. I never felt guilty or sad or anything like that. It’s important to get out of the house and have a little alone time and a little couple time, for your own mental health. Being home with a newborn is physically and mentally exhausting, you’d be surprised how eager you’ll be to get away from him for a little bit.
Post # 22
My baby is 3 1/2 months now. I will say, that I would NEVER brought her to a party with that many people at 2 weeks old! We limited the amount of people around her for the first 6 weeks, which was recommended by the doctor. I wouls have gone to the shower for a short time without her. It’s like going to the store, you’ll be fine for an hour or two.
Post # 23
I don’t have kids, but I would plan on playing it by ear. As some PPs suggested, you might still be pregnant or have a baby only a couple days old. I’d say that, if everything is okay for you and baby, you’ll plan on stopping by for a little bit. I wouldn’t bring the baby, but that’s because here (Seattle) there is a whooping cough epedemic and that scares me. You don’t want a sick newborn!
Post # 24
Play it by ear – you very well could still be recovering and not feel like going anyway. But I left my 3 week old (just pumped before) to go out with friends for dinner, and it was a welcome, welcome get away. You’ll have to see how you feel when the time comes – no one can tell you what you’ll feel once you actually have your baby.