(Closed) Am I having a bridezilla moment? Or do I have a right to be annoyed?

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014 - Italian Villa

ellagrace:  It’s a little weird she invited your brother’s gf. Can you pick up your mom to circumvent the whole situation?

Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I would be annoyed too. If she was disinvited, would you be able to drive your mom?

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

Suck it up. Your mom sounds like she will be more comfortable having a driver.

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper

If your mom painted it as simply needing a ride, you could solve the problem by just offering to drive her instead. If she painted it as bonding experience with your brother’s girlfriend, it might be harder to undo. Maybe she forgot that you wanted it to be a mother daughter experience. If she does go with you guys, hopefully she will be respectful and not a drama queen. 

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

I’d be very annoyed. I second driving her yourself if you can. I wouldn’t want someone who I am not close to being there for a special moment, let alone one that is used for opinions. 

Post # 9
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Busy bee

I would be pissed too. Either get up to drive her or suck it up, doesnt look like you have much of a choice.

Post # 10
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Worker bee

I would be totally annoyed. I always think it’s rude when people invite other people to someone else’s shindig – whatever that may be. Considering this should be a very private, special, once-in-a-lifetime moment, I think it’s exceptionally weird and rude.

Post # 11
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

ellagrace:  yeah bridezilla kicking in. If you’re not willing to go a little out of your way so your mom doesn’t have to drive, then it’s not important enough to you to get upset over.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

Your mom was the one who invited her, she should be the one to disinvite her. Otherwise a simple, “I’m sorry, I want this to be a special time between my mother and I. I hope you understand.” If she’s sane, she hopefully will.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I don’t think you can disinvite the brother’s girlfriend, sorry. I think that would be even more rude. I agree your mom shouldn’t have invited her, but it sounds like you weren’t going to come pick her up (can’t blame you) so she found her own “ride”.  Honestly, you’ve already had one dress shopping experience with just the moms, so I would suck it up and let the gf come along. 

Post # 14
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Busy bee

Ugh! I would be pissed too! My mom has a bad habit of doing things like this as well and it drives me nutso! I don’t have any good advice you haven’t already been given. I feel your pain though.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I say you drive your mom. I personally feel like dress shopping is a bonding moment. 

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