Post # 1
My Fiance and I looked at several churches, met with one officiant and decided on it, then as luck would have it, found out the venue we hoped to have our reception is was a block away as was the hotel I wanted to use for my guests…PERFECT RIGHT? I asked if it was too much money and he said no.
He said, lets not keep looking–you are happy with this, done.
Then he went home and his MOTHER said, she had some ideas for places but didnt want to push or offer any help if I didnt want it. I said OK
Then next email from Fiance saying “mom thinks its a good idea to choose all one location and so do I”. Now he says its to save money…he says mom thought $3,000 is too much for the church… I only said, its tax deductible
What am I in for?
So far, I’ve really liked her.
Post # 3
hello 🙂 i personally think its your Fiance whos in the wrong here. He shouldnt have said yes to you and the backtracked to your Future Mother-In-Law. I think you need to discuss what he really thinks and if he has just gone along with your Future Mother-In-Law for an easy life. He needs to understand that it is your wedding and he should be discussing with you not her. It is possible that she meant no harm and that he is using her as an excuse for his change of mind. I would point out that by doing so he may have made you look bad by agreeing with her behind your back. Put your POV across and highlight the positives, dont just go along with it or you may be setting yourself up for more problems 🙂
Post # 4
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
My Future Mother-In-Law is really frugal, and she was concerned that we were spending too much. So after we reserved our venue, she kept sending him emails- “this place is only $XX per person.” (One of which is a total cheesy place, and there’s no way in heck I’d get married there. So, I just ignored it.)
Your Future Mother-In-Law does have a good point, though. We’re paying just a little more for our venue, than what you’re paying just for the church. If you join that church, will the cost be less? (Ex: My home church is $2K for non-members to have a ceremony there, and only $600 for members) If it’s important for you to have a church wedding, I’d assume it would be important for you to be a member of one. If that’s not important to you, then why not get married at your reception venue- $3,000 is a lot of money that you could put somewhere else (like towards the honeymoon.)