Post # 1
I have a number of friends (not so much family) that just can’t “get” my (due in April) child’s name.
I am thinking about posting a facebook “rant” as a status. The name we have chosen is Briar Ann. I have one friend who keeps saying “what was that name, Brianna???” We have explained about 12 times to her. Others keep saying (while making ugly critical faces) “Where did you find that??” All this negative feedback has made me question the decision, but I know deep down it is the right name.
Here is what I want to write….
If you do not like our future daughter’s name, please keep it to yourself. First of all, no, it is not “like the ice cream.” Second, if you can’t spell it or pronounce it, please have the respect to take the 15 seconds it will take to learn. It is not all that complicated.
Am I being hormonal? Or do you think this is called for?
Post # 3
I can imagine how frustrating this is for you, but i wouldn’t post that as a facebook status. The people that it’s meant for will only laugh and it’s not going to make you feel any better. When people make comments just say that you love the name and that’s all that matters. Some people just don’t know when to shut up.
Post # 4
Please don’t post that to facebook. If you have issues with people take it up with them personally, or just ignor them.
I hate when people air their dirty laundry via passive aggresive posts on facebook.
Post # 6
If its that frustrating for you just think how frustrating its going to be for child.
Post # 7
Hmmmm, personally I think it might cause more drama, to be honest. Some people really like to ruffle feathers, and if they know something bothers you, they’re more likely to make those comments just to piss you off.
I think the best retort against ignorant comments is complete, oblivious, positivity. For example, the next time someone questions the origin, gush about how beautiful it is, how the name is a variant of your, how Briar comes from the French, etc… I think if you seem happy and unaware of their criticisms, they’re less likely to continue.
I should also add that the last time my Father-In-Law “reminded” me that Briar is an alternative name for white trash, I reminded him that his name is an alternative name for penis. 🙂
Post # 8
While I empathize with your frustration, I think it’ll make people think you’re hormonal/b*tchy more than get your point across. You love the name, who cares what others think? Don’t stoop to their level!
Post # 9
Yeah, it is totally rude and passive aggressive, but I want to shut people up!! I guess I was secretly hoping I had an “excuse” being pregnant!!
Post # 10
@Mrs. Maple Syrup: is it really that bad of a name though?? really??
Post # 11
I agree with the PP, unfortunately you are going to run accross this your whole daughters life. You just need to learn to ignore it. People are ignorant when it comes to different sounding names. Just smile and nod and correct them and go on with life
Post # 12
I think the name is pretty personally. But, I have to agree with @Mrs. Maple Syrup: on this issue though.
Post # 13
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I think it is a beautiful name. And I disagree that it is going to be frustrating for your daughter her whole life- there are many other names out there that are much harder to figure out! You like the name. So, as frustrating as other people might be right now, eventually they’ll catch on.
Post # 14
I think that once the baby is here, people won’t say anything about it. After all, if you meet a “Jane” you don’t really walk away saying “Wow, I really don’t like that name.” Instead, you focus on the person and her personality, etc.
So I don’t think it will be a problem once the baby gets here. I also think it’s a pretty name!
That being said, I wouldn’t post that on FB. It will only add more fuel to the fire. If someone is commenting a lot on your baby’s name, then they clearly like drama or like to stir things up (otherwise, they would keep their opinions to themselves!). I would just stop talking about the name with the people that have issues with it. Or if it does come up, smile and say “Thanks, but we’ve already decided!”
Post # 15
@heathaah: I actually love the name, but that’s not relevant. All that matters is that you love it. I think people will warm up to just about any name as soon as it’s attached to a real live baby, so I wouldn’t concern yourself too much with it. Just breathe and let it go. Makes for a much happier mama!
Post # 16
I wouldn’t let them forgetting the name bother you too much. It is a different name and I am sure that once they meet your little beauty it will be much easier to remember.
ETA: It is a different name but I like it . Good pick!