(Closed) Am i horrible???

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

IMO you can pick whatever date you choose, since you are the one who is actually planning a wedding.

ETA: Your sister didn’t like her original date anyway, and since she hasn’t booked any vendors yet it should be relatively easy to change it.

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

Why does it make no sense to have a winter wedding? 

Hmm I would try to move the date of your own wedding to further away from your sister’s. People will still be invited to both and it may be a financial strain on them. And a physical strain on any elderly relatives you may have.

And you picked your sister’s wedding date so her not having booked vendors yet shouldn’t come into it. If you are planning the wedding shouldn’t you be booking vendors for her? Although I think she should plan her own wedding.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2014

Kind of, but I think the main issue here is that if she had wanted a say-so in the date, she should have been taking part in the actual planning rather than just letting you do all the legwork. Plus, you did get engaged first, so why wouldn’t you get married first?

 

Post # 6
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2523 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Tell her she can bite you.

Oh, and that she can plan her own wedding.

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

No you’ve done nothing wrong. If there’s not much travel for the people going to both weddings, then 6 weeks difference is fine. Besides since she’s done nothing she can move hers if she’s worried.

Also, I suggest you don’t plan her wedding. Her wedding is her responsibility, your wedding is your responsibility.

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

Make her plan her own ceremony. Problem solved. She’s being a brat.

Post # 9
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’d imagine she’s pissed because she’s worried people are going to choose to attend the “real” wedding if they can only make it to one.

That said, i think the fact that she isn’t doing any of the planning or even agreeing to what you’ve planned pretty much negates the fact that her wedding is impossible to move. 

Post # 11
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

@RobandLil0107:  Good point, Perhaps you can have your wedding in June/July so it’s further away from hers?

Post # 14
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

Well hopefully she moves her date!

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

@RobandLil0107:  Do NOT help her with anything else regarding her wedding. You are not her employee/slave/whatever, you are her sister. You were helping her out of kindness (I’m assuming, or you just like wedding planning lol) and she’s sounds like she’s taking advantage.

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