(Closed) Am I horrible to feel this way?

posted 11 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
296 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

I think you are being very conscientious and in no way snotty or whiny.  You have a right to be concerned with the financial times we face.  I think you should not skimp on the photographer because I have read everywhere that is the area to spend your money on.  Your photos will last forever while the wedding is one day.  Could you have a smaller wedding with less people possibly?  Then when times improve have a big party?

Post # 4
2015 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

You are not being whiney at all. All of your concerns are very legitimate and I think anyone on here planning a wedding could totally relate.

If you’re concerned about finances, personally, I don’t think that photography or the venue is a good place to cut costs. Things that are easy to cut? Flowers, DJ, favors, decor, etc.

For example, we splurged and got the venue and photographer of our dreams, and we cut back on everything else. We had an iPod wedding and no DJ, we did our own centerpieces (candles) and only bought bouquets and bouts for the wedding party, we got a very small cake to cut that was decorated how we wanted, and served a variety of other (less expensive) desserts, etc. We were able to stay in our budget, and we still had a wedding that looked a lot more expensive than it was.

Post # 5
348 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

In this economy, so many brides are in the same boat as you. Thats why we started to look at a destination wedding. Also, we started saving a little bit each month, when we got to about $400 we started breaking it up into Cd’s at the bank. Cd’s that we couldnt touch until 30 days before the wedding and we can continue to add money too along with the interest the bank is putting in. We did a Cd for each major vendor (Cd for travel & airfare, CD for photography, CD for food, CD for dress and attire, etc.)

Interest rates right now are amazing, especially at credit unions if your apart of one. Def something to look into.

It certainly sets my mind at ease.

Post # 6
599 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I actually think interest rates are pretty terrible right now… but every little bit helps and CU’s are one of the better places to get good rates. My husband and I each had a 10% pay cut this year for the entire time we were planning the wedding, but we still managed. I think you’re far enough out that if you just buckle down, cut all discretionary spending, and save save save you can pull off your wedding!

Post # 7
343 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

No, not snotty or whiny at all!  Weddings are a big deal to a lot of people.  Sounds like you got an amazing deal on a venue, so you’re off to a great start.  I agree that photographer is probably not the best way to cut costs — especially if it’s important to you.  I am on a strict budget, and I have found that I would rather have a smaller wedding with everything how I want it. 

My best ways to cut costs have been to cut the guest count, DIY projects… and the most effective way I’ve found… choose the things that you really care about, do them how you want to, and forget the stuff you don’t care about. 

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