- 2 weeks ago
I am a newbee and I am really confused right now.
So let me tell you my story.
I am 33 yo and met this person 34 yo 2 years ago when he had job trip where I worked ( in Germany ). At that time I had only 5 months left in Germany. We spent over 1 month together, had a good time, travelled alot and doing lot of fun stuff. Before he left Germany ( he lived in spain ), we made a plan for me to come visit him for 1 week, and I did. Long story short – at the end of my visit I asked him if I should extend my stay in Germany and see where ” we ” are going ? He said that he never looked for anything serious, which it did break my heart.
When we are together, it is not only about sex, we didn’t even have sex until our like 10 days seeing each other. We talked about everything, laughed, he loves to sleep on my lap and he treats me just so good like we were in relationship.
July 2018 I moved back to US, no contact remaining, only like every once in 2-3 months he texted me like ” remember when you said this ” or he will texted me a pictures ” this reminds me to you ” sort of that, I never initiated any contact but surely I reply his text.
Then April 2019, I got an order to go to Germany for work so I texted him and see what he thinks, he was so excited and we decided to combine my work with vacation together, he took extra leave to come to Germany earlier with me couple more days We maintained to text at least once every 2 days until we met. We went to Maldive and spent 12 days together in Maldive and Germany. During this time I am even more confused about what he wants.
When I arrived in Germany he was so happy he held my hands and he said how he missed me, and everyday he made me feel so special. 1. in Maldive, he faced time with his mom and kinda try to introduce me to his mom, but I wasn’t too sure so I was kinda walking away little bit and told him that I didn’t hear her ( well service wasn’t the best either ). 2. He called me babe, he keep telling me that I am his girl. I just smile. 3. He arranged a surprise romantic candle light dinner on the beach and when the waitress asked what it is about, he said ” it’s only to show her how special she it to me ” That day I thought he would tell me to be exclusive or something but no ! ” Overall everyday when I was with him, he treated me so good that I almost believe that I am in relationship.
in Germany, I met my friends and he was trying so hard to fit in them, and he keeps holding my hands and trying to show that we are together. I like it, but now I am confused
I am in State side now and he is in Spain, I haven’t heard anything from him since yesterday, but well I am not too worry as he is really bad with handling text and phone. When I am with him, he left his phone in the room all the time and only answer text from his parents and siblings like once in a day or 2.
Many people told me that i should approach him and asked what he wants. Yes I wanted to, I did once but I got negative response. I just really dont know what to do or what it is.
I mean I am 33 years old we both have similar background, married once no kids, we both got our stuff together, when we are together many people told us that we just meant to be together.
But now I am in situation I can’t and do not want to waste my time. I am in situation to know either I extend my stay here or move to other country next year.
Please bee help me at least to feel better