- 9 years ago
- Wedding: May 2011
Long story short, my oldest daughter went to live with her dad in January. I have posted about this before.
Since that time her grades have dropped significantly. She was a straight A student at the school she went to when she lived with me, now she gets a lot of F’s! Everytime, I tell her dad of the F’s he threatens to send her back to her old school. Not once does he ground her or anything. She has NO discipline there whatsoever. Since she has been living there, her attitude is AWFUL! She is snotty, disrespectful, mean and acts like a fool. She swears and just says some of the dumbest things I have ever hear. Like nucking futs! She doesn’t shower regularly, or brushes her teeth on a daily basis. She wears the same dirty jeans. Her sister tells me that she throws empty Pediasure bottles under her bed. I am just appalled.
She was at my house over the weekend and used my computer to get on her Google+ account. I did not authorize her to have one but her father did. I have monitoring software on my computer that the girls are allowed to use so I can see what they are doing and what websites they are on. My rule is, you have no privacy till you are 18. I need to know who you are friends with, who you talk to, where you go and so on. There are too many crazies in this world.
So I am checking the log and I see her Google+ account and open it. I am shocked at what I find. The language this kid is using is awful! They are talking about beating each other up and making mean snotty comments back and forth. Then I see a post from this other girl asking if she can kill my daughter. I freak. I call my daughter and ask her what is going on and if she would like to tell me anything. She said no. I tell her what I saw and that I am going to call the school because the times this is happening is during school hours and on the school computers. She flips out on me adn says no. I call her dad and he said not to call the school. Says he will go to the girl’s house and threaten her parents because she is just a kid and it’s the parents fault. I said no, the kid should be help responsible because she is in 7th grade and should know right from wrong and you don’t threaten to kill someone. He argues with me about how I am stuck up and that the kids at the school my other daughter go to are a bunch of rich snotty kids who will only get their butts kicked because they don’t know how to defend themselves. He said he would handle it. Fine I said.
So this morning I find out how he handled it. He talked to my daughter. She admitted she was in the wrong but all he said was to watch what she says because her little sister won’t be there to defend her all the time. WTF! She got grounded because she had a friend over while her dad was at work but not for the crap she pulled at school.
When I get to work, I pull her Google+ account up to see if anything else has transpired and I see she and her friend are chatting and my daughter is calling me all kinds of names to her friend. I am hurt. All I did was try to protect her.
I don’t want her to come to my house for awhile. Not until she learns some respect. I asked her to clean her room at my house and put her laundry away and she flipped and whined. She is a mean kid and I don’t know what else to do. No matter what I say to her, do for her, nothing is good enough. When she is at my house, I try and make things great. I ask her how school is, I don’t say anything bad about her new school or anything. She hates me. She honestly truly hates me. The only reason she came to my house the last couple weekends was to get the giftcards she got from me for Xmas and for me to take her shopping to use them. If I call or text her she tells everyone I am bothering her. She doesn’t call or text me unless she wants something.
Am I wrong for looking at her account?