(Closed) Am I in the wrong here?

posted 7 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
6892 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

I don’t think you’re wrong. I also don’t think she is. As a very recent graduate, I get her dilemma BUT – she has to learn to live with the fact that your whole wedding doesn’t revolve around her schedule either.

I don’t feel like you intentionally left her out of anything, you invited her and she had other things to get done. That’s sort of on her. The invitation was extended. Maybe she is just stressed and feels like she can’t be involved because of school and it came out as her blaming you…when really, this isn’t your fault.

It’s kind of sucky, but she needs to realize that she said no. For a good reason (school) yes, but it doesn’t mean you or your sisters should have to change anything. I’d handle it by simply stating that while it sucks that she can’t be involved as much, her priorities are just different at the time being and it’s not something you can change. You can’t go out of your way for her when you also have a lot going on.

Post # 4
2116 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I don’t think you’re wrong and I don’t think she is either. She was probably really excited to do Maid/Matron of Honor things and had plans to do certain things and then ran out of time. You and your sisters can’t always work around her schedule though. I think if you assure her that you love her and that you love that she’s your Maid/Matron of Honor it will be at least a little better. I also think she’ll feel better with the wedding things coming up this weekend obviously the wedding! Good luck with everything!

Post # 5
3148 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I agree with the other bee’s, I think it’s just bad timing.  She should have never told you about your party tonight, thought.  I feel that was wrong.  I also feel that you are doing the best that you can.  Try to enjoy your day and night — you deserve it!

Post # 6
5889 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

on the plus side, it is wonderful that she WANTS to be so involved- i read so much on here about bridesmaids who could care less. 

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