Am I insane? WWYD? Photography, venue conflicting time lines….

posted 4 months ago in Ceremony
Post # 2
791 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

It sounds like another location is your best bet. There’s no way to get all those photos done in 1 hour if you want to attend cocktail hour. 

My cousin recently did her getting-ready photos, individual portraits, and their first look at the hotel where they were staying…. then, when they could get into their venue, they headed there all together and finished up family pictures there.

Post # 4
2412 posts
Buzzing bee

Does your contract specify a that you can only arrive at 4PM? or do you have the venue for the entire day?

Post # 5
1484 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

mrsbrizz2017 :  I would do as many photos as possible at the other location. It’s not really ideal, but it’s beautiful and will save you so much stress on the day of. 

I find it really strange that you are only allowed on the property an hour before. I would assume that you are the only person renting the estate that day? Weird. 

She definitely seems kooky. Good luck with her! 

Post # 6
4748 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

mrsbrizz2017 :  I think the location your photographer is suggesting looks lovely – and going that route would take a lot of stress off your shoulders.

Post # 7
171 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

I’ll possibly be taking first look and family photos at another location. Your alternate location does look beautiful, and I think having extra time and less stress sounds desirable. You’ll still get your romantic couple pics at your venue after the ceremony, so it seems like a win-win to me!

Post # 8
2024 posts
Buzzing bee

mrsbrizz2017 : What does your contract say regarding what time you can arrive?

The location your photographer suggested does look gorgeous (I wish we had somewhere like that near us so we could take pics there too).

Would it be possible to do both? So basically, take the bulk of the important family pics at the location your photographer suggested then take a few at the venue location too so you won’t be losing a lot of time.

Post # 9
2702 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

Use the other location. It looks lovely and the only downside is an extra 7 minute journey, which is nothing as long as you remember to factor it in. Maybe do your first look at the other location and then meet family at the ceremony location at 4. An hour is definitely enough just for family shots. 

Post # 10
784 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2018 - The Venue, Barkisland, UK

We’re doing our first look and wedding party photos at a different location, about 15 mins from the ceremony/reception venue.

The reason for this is because we’re a little limited in good places for photos at the venue and we didn’t want everybody who was arriving to be watching us.

I will find a plan B photo site as well though, just in case the weather is awful!

Post # 11
3010 posts
Sugar bee

Woman sounds like a kind of unhinged control freak – what does she care how you organize your photos? But I guess that’s part of the deal when you book with that venue. 

I dunno, photos were kind of a hot mess at my wedding. We did photos separately before the ceremony (cause I didn’t want to see him until walking down the aisle), and then tried to cram in all family, bridal party, and bride & groom alone photos in like 45 min afterward and it was pretty stressful. I’m worried we didn’t get enough of just DH and me actually – will find out soon enough – but I didn’t want to be late to the reception so I kinda encouraged the photographer to rush through it. If I had to do it over again, I think I might actually start our ceremony 30 min earlier to allow more time for photos afterwards, since I was dead set on not doing a first look (which I don’t regret!).

Honestly, given your situation, I would use the other location for the group photos to cut down on stress. I think the photos you’ll look at most afterward will be the ones of just you and your groom, which will be at the venue if I understood correctly.

Post # 12
5277 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

Do it at a different location, 100%. We did first look at 3 pm and wedding was at 5:30. We had plenty of time but we definitely spent 2 hours taking photos easily. 

Post # 13
601 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

I would start at the separate location. It’s a pretty spot, and it will relieve a lot of stress. We did our first look at a different location. Our “first look” was fairly short (5-10 min?) but then we moved around for some couple portraits. Overall, we did:

2pm-3:30pm – first look/all couple portraits (included moving around the city, three different locations)

3:30pm-4:20pm – arrived at venue and did wedding party pictures and family portraits

4:30pm – wedding party hid in lounge as guests arrived

5pm ceremony start time

Family photos were surprisingly quick. Our photographers took us through the shot list in like 20 min, even though we have divorces on both sides so essentially 4 sets of parents. But I liked not feeling rushed!

Post # 14
1660 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

mrsbrizz2017 :  Get the photos done at a separate location. You don’t need any extra stress on your wedding day especially of something that can be avoided. With more time for pics you’re more likely to get nice ones since you won’t stressing being late to the ceremony.

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