(Closed) Am I just a humorless stick in the mud? Or does anyone else not like this?

posted 8 years ago in Grooms/men
  • poll: Are you offended by humor that implies the groom is being trapped by marriage?
    No. Lighten up. It's all in fun! : (45 votes)
    24 %
    Yes. It's annoying and juvenile and a bit offensive. : (127 votes)
    67 %
    Other (please explain). : (17 votes)
    9 %
  • Post # 3
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    I don’t like those jokes at all.

    Post # 4
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I am completely disgusted by those cake toppers!!!  I’m so glad someone else is, too!  I’ve always wondered who on earth would use one of those?

    Honestly, sometimes my Fiance will make joking comments about being tied down, his life is over, etc, etc, to me.  I finally told him flat out, “Look, if you want to play that game with your guy friends, I don’t care.  But I KNOW how good you’ve got it with me, so stop making those comments to me!”  And he agreed!

    Post # 5
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I find it a tad bit offensive and not my style of humor, so I ignore it. Now my Fiance on the other hand finds it COMPLETELY offensive and whenever anybody tries to make a joke he will definitely say something about how completely angry stuff like that makes him. He says when people make jokes like that it is putting me down and if any man tries to make me feel bad he will set them straight. That part I think it cute (that he loves me so much he think he needs to protect me from societal jokes). People have just stopped joking to us about it because they get tired of hearing him go off on a tangent.

    Post # 6
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I don’t find it offensive, but I don’t think its funny either.

    Post # 7
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    I don’t like it, I know its supposed to be funny, but to me its just sad. It makes it seem like the guy is going to prision & being forced into it. My husband also hated those cake toppers when we looked for some, he very happily married me & we don’t want it to look like I dragged him into it. If anything, he pursued me all the way!

    Post # 8
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    It really doesn’t bother me.  People joke about all kinds of things but it doesn’t mean they actually think its true (ie. people don’t actually think of you as a ball and chain to your husband).  It’s just all in good, clean fun.

    I do agree that I don’t get the cake toppers of the groom running away from the bride though.  It’s one thing to joke about it in conversations, cards, emails, etc and a whole other thing to display on your wedding cake at your reception.  There’s a time and a place for joking around and for a joke like that, I don’t see the wedding reception as the place to do it.

    Post # 9
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    I hate it too. For my husband’s bachelor weekend, his best man made an actual ball and chain out of a 10 lb bowling ball and a chain, then padlocked it to his ankle and he couldn’t take it off the entire weekend, not even to sleep. The worst part? It had my name on it. It totally pissed off my husband, but the best man wouldn’t relent. Totally sucks.

    Post # 10
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Yeah, it’s pretty dis-tasteful, and honesly sexist, to just assume that the woman is tying down the man’s free will.  I think it’s pretty not cool, and I hate when people make comments like that. 

    Post # 11
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    612 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    @PortlandBride: That is so terrible! I would have shoved that bowling ball in a very uncomfortable spot for a particularly unlucky best man.

    Post # 13
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    @serasvictoria: I’m glad wasn’t there when it was happening because I just might have shoved it somewhere very painful for him 😉

     

    @neva: He geniunely thought that my husband having to deal with the bowling ball all weekend would be an indication of if he was ready to handle married. Totally weird and didn’t make any sense. Thankfully, they had a serious talk about it after and he made amends.

    Post # 14
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    @PortlandBride, I would of tried hitting people with the bowling ball personally. Ha!

    Post # 15
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    I completely understand! The weekend after my Fiance and I got engaged his stupid friend mailed him this shirt. I mean, i get its a joke, but it really is kinda offensive. I didnt trick him into marrying me!

    Post # 16
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Ugg I hate all that stuff too because you’d NEVER see anything with a woman on it looking like she was the one getting dragged into marriage. It’s like WTF? Women are giving up their independence as well when they get married.

    Guys who think that stuff is funny need to man up – real men are able to make the decision to get married without having to be coerced or otherwise conned into it. They get married because they realize life is better with their fiance than without.

    Although in some relationships maybe it is the case that the groom is getting dragged in and then I just think that’s very sad.

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