(Closed) Am I just being cynical about a vow renewal one year after the wedding?

posted 9 years ago in Vow Renewals
Post # 77
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642 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Sounds like a good stimulus plan for our sucky economy, wish she lived in Cali and did this every year!

Post # 78
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682 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

hrm. On one hand, I am having an intimate vow renewal after 15 yrs of marriage. I didn’t have a wedding when we married so I would like a dress and wine, and music. So, in that respect, I don’t want to be catty about any brides renewing vows lol. But, I would not dream of:

1-having a bachelorette party of any sort (no matter what it is called)
2-having that many people after I just did 12 months prior
3-expecting gifts

My girlfriend called me and told me she is SO excited about our upcoming ceremony that she “just has” to get me a gift. I told her she could donate to the ACS in our names. I would be flat confused if someone bought me a gift lol. the purpose of wedding gifts is to set up a new home…uh, we’re married 15 yrs with 5 kids. I think we’ve got that covered.

Anyway, maybe she just loved her wedding so much she wants to relive it? I dunno…

Post # 79
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

All I can say is ….. WOW, that girl is crazy.  It would be one thing if she and her husband wanted to renew their vows, just the two of them.  But to throw a big party that is more than the vast mojority of people’s weddings when you just threw a giant wedding 12 months before?  Ridiculous, IMO.

Post # 80
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1995 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

yikes, cry for attention!??  jeez just have a baby if you want parties and free gifts.

I’d politely decline. now.

Post # 81
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@ohheavenlyday: EXACTLY, she just doesn’t want to admit she has already played the bride card.

This is just so weird to me. For a 25 year, 50 year, even if it was just the two of them! I could see a vow renewal. But she is just having another wedding, not a vow renewal.

Post # 82
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Newbee

@Miss Tattoo: ..woah! That just blew me away. A vow renewal a year after the wedding? I think your friend only wants another reason to throw a huge event.. but..wow..I don’t mean to be judgemental but I find it extremely weird and would have acted the same way you did!! Your other friends are probably secretely envying you right now for saying what they can’t bring themselves to say about the whole situation! I find it kinda makes their original wedding not-so-special anymore..

You’re definitely not a fake “smile and nod” kind of person and I say hurray for that!
the world needs more people like you Wink

Post # 83
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150 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I can understand it if you were eloping and then a year later decided to have your party and a vow renewal so that you could shaer that moment with your friends and family. However, I am not talking about a huge to-do! A party, yes but not with a new dress and parties etc. before the day. Clearly she just likes being the center of attention… can you imagine her on her childrens wedding days if she has them?

Post # 85
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I’m sorry but this is bat shit crazy to me. Very selfish of her to IMO to feel her 2nd day is more important than your cousins wedding. Even if something did happen in their first year to rock the foundation so to speak, I wouldn’t be going all out. I get annoyed when celebrities started this trend and this is just a waste of money and time. Wow! You survived a year! What do you want, a cookie? I get to each their own, but this is silly and she needs a hobby.

Post # 86
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Hmm….you have the wedding of a family member OR the vow renewal of a not-that-close friend who has only been married a year.  Which to attend?

I think a card is the perfect response.  You have acknowledged her “occasion” without succumbing to the madness.  

Post # 87
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423 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Wow, I can’t believe she is expecting gifts.  Complaining about cards with “jack shit” in them? 

There are no words.

Post # 88
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Miss Tattoo: lol, that would really make me want to send her just an envelope with no card in it! I can see doing a small vow renewal for whatever reason, but you don’t get presents for it!

Post # 89
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

That’s insane.  If Fiance and I were to do some sort of one year vow renewal, it would be while on an anniversary vacation somewhere with just the two of us.

Post # 90
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

This is weird. Maybe they didn’t get as many gifts as planned 🙂

Post # 91
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2004

hmm, that is a bit odd.  My husband and I have always planned to do a renewal ceremony for our 10 year and I even wonder if that is too soon.

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