(Closed) Am I Just Being Sensitive Or…? (CAUTION: RANT)

posted 7 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I think you are making all of the best decisions you can! You are doing a great job and are going to be a wonderful mom. I say ignore him!Laughing

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Not a parent but in my daycare experience every single infant (out of probably 100 I dealt with) ALL used the only one type of bottle. Furthermore I know my baby cousin only uses one type and refuses to drink out of others. Also you can’t just go switching things on a baby they won’t have that. All the infants/toddlers knew “their” pacificer. Ignore that guy.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@MrsH1010: he is a whackadoodle. Totally agree with you. My daughter would not let us “switch” on her. She didn’t use the pacifier for very long but she KNEW if I tried a new one.

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Wow!  He’s being a bit crazy (not that that’s anything new!)

My friends daughter will only take 1 kind of pacifier and only in the 0-3 month size (she’s almost a year now).  She immediately spits out anything else.

 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2000

My advice is to not go decision by decision with him. Hopefully he will agree with an amount he will contribute, or a range, and you can ask if for some reason the baby needs more.  You don’t want to be questioned on every little purchase. There are so many ‘right’ answers, it will wear on you to go through this every time there is a money decision to be made, especially the ‘small’ stuff.  You don’t want his mood about his financial state (which will likely be in flux day to day) to affect your confidence in making decisions for your baby based on research and mommy-know-how.

You may have to use a baby calculator  to convince him of reasonable costs (babyzone or babycenter has a good one) or show him a spreadsheet of what you already have and how much you saved by going second hand, so he knows you are being reasonable and using your money savvy skills when deciding what is the best. OH, and if you go that route, better hold back on the slapping, since YOU ARE the reasonable one.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee

@MrsH1010:I am so glad the baby has a wonderful mommy. Daddy’s are great too but sometimes they don’t understand. Ignore him.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

To me it would be way more money to use a variety of bottles…..different liners, lids, nipples, etc. 

At 3am do you want to make a bottle or do you want to spend 15 minutes trying to find all the parts that go with that one bottle.  Interchangeable parts seems to be a lot easier.

Ignore him!  You are a smart woman!

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2000

Oops, just saw this was a rant and not an advice request so disregard my previous post.

And I agree with PPosters.  He needs to educate himself or open to learn from you if he wants to be included in the decisions or you will have to ignore all this questioning.  🙂

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I think you are doing a great job!  Getting secondhand baby stuff is an awesome idea and I hope I can find as many treasures as you have found.  Ignore him.  Unless he has hours of research backing up his claims, ignore him!  You know what you are doing.  He doesn’t.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

You are doing great! Stick to what you know and other mom’s tell you. Not everything will be true for your child, but advice from other moms can really help you figure things out. Some babies will take any bottle, others won’t.

And really, there are few people who can’t be economically minded these days! Darling Husband and I have a registry since it’s our first and both families are throwing small showers, but it’s only got the essentials on it. We’re using a few awesome second hand baby stores to get the rest of our clothing and gear.

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

Ignore him! From the sounds of it you are doing everything right! More power to you 🙂 keep your head up!!!

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