(Closed) Am I LOSING my f*ing MIND?!

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Try not to tell anyone else except us Bees about your insanity. Two girls from my work have gone the route of telling us about the potential proposals. Here are the results:

1 girl has not been proposed to yet, but whenever she gets back from nice weekends or vacations or any of the events which normally one should be able to get back from and gush and  celebrate, everyone says “ring?” No.   This is a let-down. It is a let down every time.  Why would you want to spread the let-downs around?  

The other girl drove herself so crazy that she finally got in a big fight with her bf and then he ended up proposing during a fight…..it’s like she forced him to do it. Not romantic. 

Give the guy some time.

Don’t be that girl!

Post # 4
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Breeeeathe! Deep breath, breathe again. That is nerve racking. But, whenever it happens you will feel amazing. I’m hoping that you have the best birthday weekend ever! (memorable proposal included)

Best of luck to you!

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I’m going through something similar. Boyfriend or Best Friend bought the ring in January. My birthday and our romantic weekend away came and went last week. Both were great, but I can’t help but feel down this week. Spending time planning helps in some ways, but hurts in others.

I am trying to focus on something non-wedding related. For me that is a trip with the girls in a few months. It is hard, but that is what works best for me.

Good luck and happy birthday!

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010 - Ladder 15 Restaurant

Haha no, you aren’t losing your mind.  But I agree with cvbee…you might not want to tell everyone because if it doesn’t happen, not only will you be disappointed at the time, but then when other people ask, it’ll frustrate you more!

Enjoy the butterflies and anxiousness though…it’ll be so amazing when it happens.  Good luck!

Post # 7
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Bumble bee

I feel ya! Good luck and definitely let us know what happens! If it doesn’t happen, just know that it is coming in due time (I mean, he’s excited about preplanning!!)

Try your best not to be disappointed if it doesn’t, he has his own timeline and is probably planning something amazing! It is really hard to understand it from their perspective sometimes. I know it’s difficult for me.

It is SO hard not to get yourself all worked up. I have tried not to truly “expect” it at any time, because I did once and it was a huge disappointment. I was in mega-b*tch mode for 3 days because I had it in my head he’d propose sometime before this huge dinner party we threw last month. When he didn’t, I got snippy and mean with him, and honestly didn’t realize why til aftewards. I told him and we actually got a chuckle out of it.

I have no idea if he’s gotten the ring yet (probably…), so seriously, at least once a week, I think “oh, it might be tonight!” because of some silly feeling or event.. and I always kept it ALL to myself. NO FUN!
Take, for instance, yesterday.. he took the day off work and told me it’d be a nice night with a fire and we’d cookout.. I got my own wheels turning! Ugh.. he just told me it hasn’t happened yet because he wants the weather to be nice, etc. I know it’ll be low-key with just the two of us, so I have no clue when to expect it.

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Don’t stress yourself out – like the friend of cvbee, if you expect it everytime you do any nice activity/fun day/trip/holiday/celebration etc you won’t enjoy those things for what they are. It’s hard enough when you keep it to yourself, but when you start to tell other people about your expectations it makes it more real and more disappointing when it doesn’t happen.

I thought my Fiance was going to propose on my birthday, He’s big into skydiving and surprised me on my b-day by taking me for a jump. I seriously started thinking he was going to land and be waiting for my landing to propose to me. When it didn’t happen, the adrenaline caught up with me and I told him that was part of the reason I convinced myself to jump out, LOL – at least we had a good laugh about it!!!

Post # 9
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226 posts
Helper bee

We’re here for you! Don’t get worked up about it. I know it’s really, really hard, but just let yourself be calm and enjoy what sounds like a great weekend with your family and the man that you love. You don’t want to carry a tiny raincloud in your pocket and have it grow bigger and bigger all weekend! Yes, I know that was cheesey. Anyhow, letting yourself be a little excited is ok, but don’t tell everyone. If you tell everyone and it doesn’t happen, an expectation has been set for everyone and they will be disappointed for you which may feel particularly scalding for the bf who might then take even longer to actually propose.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Haha nooo girl you are not losing it..Id be the same way if Boyfriend or Best Friend had a ring in his possession and I knew! LOL try not to be “that girl” and just vent/gush to us bees b/c people will think ur desperate and that is so not classy. Sounds like a good weekend is headed your way with or without a proposal (but obviously Im hoping  you get your ring!) HAPPY BIRTHDAY and GOOD LUCK!! <3

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I like VioletVeil’s cute analogy of the rain cloud.  🙂  It’s just so true.

Feel free to vent here, vanilla frosting!  Good luck this weekend and happy birthday!

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

ahhh good luck!!! Just try to enjoy the moment and if it happens GREAT!! if not…it will still be soon!!! 🙂

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I agree with cvbee, probably best to keep the venting here.

BUT if I knew bf had the ring, I’d be tearing my hair out, so don’t feel like you’re a crazy person.

(…or maybe we all are?  🙂 

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

You got it!! Enjoy being off the waiting list vanilla!!

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