(Closed) Am I losing my mind? I feel so sad

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 18
Member
2187 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I would end that friendship to be honest with you. Everything she’s done seems pretty intentional.

Post # 20
Member
283 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

View original reply
@Heatherloveskenny: Seriously!

Sometimes I feel like I’m from an entirely different planet because what some people consider to be a ‘friend’ to me sounds like a person I would never want to be around!

If she is really like a sister to you, you would have noticed this “flirtacious” behavior long ago. It wouldn’t just pop up right before you’re about to get married. If you are THAT close, she should know you well enough to know what kinds of things upset you. Even if you were complete strangers, only a complete a$$ would steal your seat next to your Fiance and start belting out anti-fiancee/anti-wedding lyrics.

Maybe I’m a knee-jerk reaction kind of person, but seriously, cleanse yourself of this person. A good friend wouldn’t go out of her way to make you feel this way. A good person wouldn’t, either.

Post # 21
Member
2203 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

She sounds like the type of girl that wants what she can’t have.

Her behavior is 1000% inappropriate and she knows it. If I ever had a friend email and me say I was being flirty with their guy (which I would NEVER do but), I would be bending over backwards apologizing for making her feel that way. Not saying I’m a flirtacious person, aka, deal with it.

It might be too late to ask her to step out of your bridal party but I wouldn’t include her in anything and I would certainly keep my distance. You don’t need that kind of energy around you and your Fiance.

I’m sure your Fiance was just upset that he was the one blamed for the friend’s actions that one night. He didn’t ask her to act that way, he’s in the same boat as you. But you know that, just stay strong together and keep the crazy b*tch away!

Post # 22
Member
390 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

View original reply
@Emotional123: I was just checking up on you and something you said bothered me.

Fiance asked you if her saying they had kissed bothered you…Did he say it bothered him? That is a little weird to me. Most men would be like wtf…but if your fiance wasn’t the least bit flabbergasted and just asked if it bothered you…I would be suspicious. After that bit of info was added I could see why you questioned him.

Post # 23
Member
3010 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I don’t think she has a thing for him.  I think she’s trying to ruin the good relationship that OP and her Fiance have.  She’s jealous.  Plain and simple.

Post # 24
Member
2114 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

WOW . Is your Fiance named Jesse?  that would have brought the cray cray level way up! ugh I have a knot in my stomach just reading it. Whether your friendship ends with this girl (for being an all out psycho bitch – or perhaps cheating with your FI) or you have a long serious chat with Fiance ..because something is obviously going on whether it be cheating or not

Post # 25
Member
1684 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

View original reply
@Ms. Polar Bear:

Yes, it was the thing about kissing that bothered me too. That kind of thing doesn’t come out of the blue, or if it does, he should’ve been flabbergasted, at least in private later on.

Post # 28
Member
1269 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I don’t normally throw this word around but the girl sounds jealous of you and/or wants your man.  She sounds inappropriate and I question her sense or rather, lack of. 

I think I understand you asking for your FI’s phone.  It’s not his fault, yes, but you had two options…your friend is seriously crazy or there might be cheating.  I think with what we’ve all seen on here it would feel more likely the cheating.  Sounds like nope, girl is crazy.  Just apologize profusely to him for that, you just couldn’t believe someone would act like that, and then end that friendship.  I think your Fiance really cares about your feelings.

Post # 29
Member
236 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Whoa whoa whoa…crazy train is in your BRIDAL PARTY?! <insert brake nosie here> Yeah, maybe it’s just me, but there’s no way I’d have this girl up there. Between the weird Ipod music display, insuating she’s kissing your Fiance, and the inappropriate dancing I’d say a giant no. She has no boundaries by the sound of it.

Give yourself a break for going through his phone. She’s messing with your mind, and the poor dude’s a victim of that. You didn’t steal it, you went through it with him. That’s a huge difference.

She sounds like a toxic friend. Why do you want this level of crazy in your life during your engagement? It’s hurting your primary relationship with your fiance. Sit the girl down and tell her what’s up.

Man, she makes me mad for you! Who does this to their friends?

Post # 30
Member
2546 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

The weird thing is the crazy singing. Up until then everything seemes ok. I mean, maybe the kissing thing, was her way of trying to connect with him, or maybe it was directed to you. The dancing thing doesn’t bug me too much, as my friends and I dance together all the time, and I recall dancing with other friends boyfriends, and kind switching on and off. Anyways, I don;t get whats up with the singing part. I don’t th ink you have lost your marbles, I think this is pretty odd behaviour, comming from anyone.

Post # 31
Member
541 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

The music threw me off. Who does that? She had to have had that planned. I have friends that “flirt” with Fiance and that’s okay, but if they ever tried to serenade him with an iPod…

You aren’t the crazy one. I would distance myself from this friend if I were in your shoes, especially if her behavior toward your Fiance is making him uncomfortable.

The topic ‘Am I losing my mind? I feel so sad’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors