- Ms. Polar Bear
- 10 years ago
- Wedding: December 2011
This girl sounds completely nuts. Get her out of your life and your bridal party, and don’t invite her to the wedding. Seriously. You do not need someone who wants to undermine your marriage around on your wedding day.
It also sounds to me like your fiance was trying not to offend you by calling out your friend too harshly. From what I read in your posts, I don’t think he was “involved” with your friend at all. It sounds like these situations made him really uncomfortable, too.
Wow. You are not at all crazy. She is way out of line. This must be hard on you since you love her like a sister. It sounds like you had a great talk with your fiance and that he has been trying to be considerate of your friendship. It also sounds like you need to have a talk with this girl. I have seen a number of posts where brides are upset with a bridesmaid and even considering kicking her out of the wedding party for something that to me is not a big deal or may be a misunderstanding. However I think you should ask her to step down. She has been completely inappropriate and she claims to have no idea what you are talking about when you mention her flirtatious behavior. Major life events, both those good and bad, can really help you find out who should be a part of your life or how much of your life they should be a bart of. Good luck.
Hi bees. Fiance and I spoke this weekend about everything. I have no doubt in my mind that I never had anything to worry about with him. He really is the most honest, caring person I’ve ever met and after talking to him I realize his calmness in these scenarios basically came from him not wanting to start a fight between my friend and I. As far as my friend I’ve decided to bite the bullet, so to speak. For my own piece of mind I need to tell her exactly what she did. I’m fully aware that she knows, but I still need to tell her. This is a friend that I have had for ten years. I suppose it was very hard for me to accept that a decade of friendship might be worth the bit of attention she wanted from the situation but I don’t think she thinks it through. I’ve seen many times the legnths she will go to for attention. I’ve also seen it increase anytime someone was aloof with her. In a sick way I think that’s why she did it. His ignoring her made her lose sight of a friendship and need the thrill of knowing she could attain his attention. At this point I am looking past our decade of friendship because, clearly, she does the same. She has contacted me many, many times since I emailed her. It’s clear to me she’s trying to fix the situation. I’m beyond fixing. I love my fiancé and to think a friend could ignore that for her own selfworth issues is reprehensible to me. As far as I’m concerned distance is the only answer. I thank you bees so much for all your help the last few days. I’m going to go back to my regular bee name and enjoy planning my wedding. I won’t get these days back and I certainly won’t allow this to detract from my happiness.
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