Post # 46
I think you’re being very unrealistic. You’ve been engaged for 5 months and already wnat to upgrade your ring? You told him you didn’t want a large ring so he got you one that was under 1 carat and it sounds spec wise really nice. I think you’d really hurt his feelings if you asked for an upgrade so soon or even at the year mark.
Post # 47
As an an update I did end up speaking to him about it and he wasn’t hurt at all he laughed and said I was silly for being nervous about talking to him and said that if by the time we get married I still want a bigger diamond then it’s fine, he also echoed the other ladies on here about trying bigger on so we get the right size this time 😂
It was a 5 minute conversation and he basically just laughed about it all!
im also going to look at getting a sparkly wedding ring as well as it would Be nice to have the ring he proposed with if I can make it work!
Post # 48
Yes i do think its mean 5 months in. If he wanted to buy you a 1 carat, he would have. Id wait till a significant anniversary.
Post # 49
You’ve only been engaged for 5mos. When my exhusband proposed, he choose a ring that was not my taste at all. It was the opposite of what I hoped he’d pick out. Also, he decided to get the best color, cut, clarity over carat size, so he spent a good deal of money for the best quality diamond.
If I were to say only 5mos in that I wasn’t happy with it, he would have been crushed as he was so proud of it.
I’d suggest waiting until you’re actually married and perhaps after some anniversary, then look at upgrading.
Post # 50
Beth7210 : I’m so happy to see your update bee! I’m also glad you didn’t listen to the people trying to shame you about this. Can’t wait to see what you decide!
Post # 51
Beth7210 : girl, think of the amount of money you or your Fiance will be spending for what? another 1 mm of finger coverage? That money could be used for so much more. Why don’t you wait until an anniversary? I think your pear is beautiful…if only I had a pear like yours i’d be over the moon!
Post # 52
I think it’s absolutely beautiful! It looks a lovely size on your finger and very elegant and classy. If you want to go bigger then that’s fine too but I wanted to say how nice this one looks. Pears look bigger than other shapes as well.
Also I do think a sparkly wedding band would look gorgeous with it.
Post # 53
I am on a same boat as you. we have the same size and he could not afford to get me a bigger size that i want. he did say he will upgrade on our anniversary. do you think at the time of purchase it was what your Fiance can afford? he did buy a good quality diamond. and the ring does look beautiful and classy on your hand…i’m glad you are able to speak to your Fiance about it and is open to upgrading it.
Post # 54
ovalbee : thanks for your reply, he purchased the size he did because I said I didn’t want a massive diamond (I meant not like 3cts though but never mind haha) he said he spent 2/3rds of his original budget. I think we will either spend the rest on a bigger stone or custom making a nice sparkly wedding band (I was originally going to have a filigree style wedding ring with no sparkle)
Post # 55
Beth7210 : That’s what I’m doing. I love the ring fi proposed with and never want to take it off, but sort of wished it had more sparkle afterward (i got a sapphire with diamond accents). So my wedding band is going to be a 5 stone moissanite ring. It’s only .75 ctw because I worried larger stones would overpower my ring too much and I do love the sapphire. I don’t see anything wrong with going more blingy for the wedding band if you want something more than your ering provides. Of course, i don’t see anything wrong with changing out your ering either. TBH, if the wedding band isn’t enough later on, I’ll probably get another 5 stone ring with larger moissanites and rotate them.
Good luck with whatever you all pick out for the wedding!
Post # 56
Beth7210 : I don’t think it is mean at all. It’s always better to get exactly what you want, otherwise you’ll just keep thinking about it. You are the one to wear the ring, not him.