(Closed) Am I mean that I want to upgrade my ring

posted 3 years ago in Rings
Post # 46
6360 posts
Bee Keeper

I think you’re being very unrealistic.  You’ve been engaged for 5 months and already wnat to upgrade your ring?  You told him you didn’t want a large ring so he got you one that was under 1 carat and it sounds spec wise really nice.   I think you’d really hurt his feelings if you asked for an upgrade so soon or even at the year mark.

Post # 48
9565 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

Yes i do think its mean 5 months in. If he wanted to buy you a 1 carat, he would have. Id wait till a significant anniversary.

Post # 49
1045 posts
Bumble bee

You’ve only been engaged for 5mos. When my exhusband proposed, he choose a ring that was not my taste at all. It was the opposite of what I hoped he’d pick out. Also, he decided to get the best color, cut, clarity over carat size, so he spent a good deal of money for the best quality diamond. 

If I were to say only 5mos in that I wasn’t happy with it, he would have been crushed as he was so proud of it. 

I’d suggest waiting until you’re actually married and perhaps after some anniversary, then look at upgrading. 

Post # 50
469 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

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Beth7210 :  I’m so happy to see your update bee! I’m also glad you didn’t listen to the people trying to shame you about this. Can’t wait to see what you decide!

Post # 51
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Beth7210 :  girl, think of the amount of money you or your Fiance will be spending for what? another 1 mm of finger coverage? That money could be used for so much more. Why don’t you wait until an anniversary? I think your pear is beautiful…if only I had a pear like yours i’d be over the moon! 

Post # 52
41 posts
  • Wedding: September 2014

I think it’s absolutely beautiful! It looks a lovely size on your finger and very elegant and classy. If you want to go bigger then that’s fine too but I wanted to say how nice this one looks. Pears look bigger than other shapes as well.

Also I do think a sparkly wedding band would look gorgeous with it.

Post # 53
16 posts

I am on a same boat as you.  we have the same size and he could not afford to get me a bigger size that i want.  he did say he will upgrade on our anniversary.  do you think at the time of purchase it was what your Fiance can afford?  he did buy a good quality diamond.  and the ring does look beautiful and classy on your hand…i’m glad you are able to speak to your Fiance about it and is open to upgrading it.   

Post # 55
1697 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

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Beth7210 :  That’s what I’m doing.  I love the ring fi proposed with and never want to take it off,  but sort of wished it had more sparkle afterward (i got a sapphire with diamond accents). So my wedding band is going to be a 5 stone moissanite ring.  It’s only .75 ctw because I worried larger stones would overpower my ring too much and I do love the sapphire.  I don’t see anything wrong with going more blingy for the wedding band if you want something more than your ering provides. Of course,  i don’t see anything wrong with changing out your ering either. TBH,  if the wedding band isn’t enough later on,  I’ll probably get another 5 stone ring with larger moissanites and rotate them. 

Good luck with whatever you all pick out for the wedding! 

Post # 56
113 posts
Blushing bee

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Beth7210 :  I don’t think it is mean at all. It’s always better to get exactly what you want, otherwise you’ll just keep thinking about it. You are the one to wear the ring, not him. 

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