Post # 1
I never saw bridesmaids as a particluarly big expense at my wedding, but am I missing something? I am aware I have to pay for their dresses and flowers, but that’s about it, or is it?
i saw several posts on fb groups where brides to be are upset about being unable to have more family members as bridesmaids due to the costs of it. And that made me very worried I am now missing something, I just don’t really know what.
So is there anything elese I am traditionally supposed to do for my bridesmaids other thanprovide dresses and flowers?
Post # 2
moominboopin : Where I am brides pay for dresses, flowers and then things like hair and make up, shoes, jewellery or other accessories (shawls etc) if they are required specifically by the bride. It is also customary to buy your bridal party a thank you gift as well.
As to the messages you are seeing, well there could be a lot of factors going on there. Different budgets, expensive dresses etc could be factors in why some brides may not have as many bridesmaids as they wish.
Post # 3
moominboopin : Depends on your country and possibly location in country. If you’re in the US, dress is a bonus actually and all you’d need to pay for are things you require, such as if you were insisting on pro makeup. And flowers, obviously as that’s part of your decor. My ‘maids were coming from a very long way, so I also paid for cabin rental for one for 2 nights (the other was my sis and covered already by parents’ rental). But we did the same for a few other guests as well. I also paid for dresses as their gift (rather let them keep their own dress money than be gifted something pointless).
If you’re in England it sounds like the dress is a requirement by the bride… not sure where else that’s true. But still anything else is just a bonus unless you are demanding it.
Post # 4
ah, thank you ! I am in England, yet my bridesmaids are all over europe and none of them are english.I have said I will pay for the dresses, yet all of them have declined the offer. They are all very different people, so i am not insisting on any particular make up ,shoes or accessories.At the moment I only have to pay for their flowers, which seems a bit too little tbh. Maybe I will offer professional make up and hair on the day, if any of them wants to, I am slightly unsure what else I could do for them. In my case it’s really just about the gesture, as I have enough money in my budget to do more for them, yet they are financially comfortable too,so if i offered to pay for flights or hotel, they would probably offended.
i feel a bit relieved now, as I was wondering if there is something massive I am really supposed to do, but didn’t know about 🙂