Post # 1
Everyone I have spoken with about my wedding are shocked to hear how much it is costing us and in turn, they start assuming that its going to be cheap and crappy. In reality, it is really quite the opposite. Am I missing some major wedding necessity or something that is causing all these couples to have ridiculously expensive weddings? Here’s my basic budget breakdown for my $9500(ish) wedding for 75 guests:
Venue: Lake side resort in The Adirondacks – no fee
Food/Beverage: Sit down dinner with beef and chicken option, 5 hours of limited open bar (beer, wine, soda), champagne toast, cocktail hour with passed and stationed hor dourves – $4400 (including tax & gratuity)
Ceremony Site: Same venue – $300
DJ: 5 hours + karaoke – $550
Photographer: All day coverage & full right to the photos – $900
Flowers: Bouquets (1 bride, 3 bridesmaids), bouts (4 guys), 10 floral pomanders – $550
Misc decoration/favors/invitations: We’re going to use the floral pomanders to line the ceremony isle and then re-use them for the wedding centerpieces. For the favor we are going to do a dessert bar. We designed the invitations ourselves and will have them professionally printed. – $350
Dress & Grooms Apparel – $750
Cake – $300
Rings – $500
Bridal Party Gifts – $500
Accessories/Beauty – $250
Licenses/Legalities – $50 (not sure of the exact price but its around there)
I know alot of it has to do with location but even in my area the “average” wedding costs well over $20,000. Our wedding venue is one of the areas most popular venues too, so its not like we chose somewhere off the grid. Am I missing something?
The officiant is purposely not included since we’re hoping to have my cousin get ordained and perform our ceremony for us (free!).
We’re definitely on a budget but we are certainly not having a bare bones type of wedding.
Post # 3
Bigger budget than me, but I think you shouldn’t worry. Definitely anticipate some cost differences. Etiquette says that you’re supposed to pay for the groosmens tux’s. Do you have a wedding dress picked out and the estimated cost of alterations (David’s Bridal charges alot for alterations)?
Post # 4
@beekiss2 I have nver heard of paying for the groomsman’s tux’s. Is that a regional thing?
The only thing I did notice missing might be transportation. It looks like you got a good deal on lots of things. The photographer is a great price! Your budget is larger than mine.
I also find that it is sometimes better not to tell people your budget. This way no way can judge!
Post # 5
The guys aren’t wearing tux’s but even if they were, we would not be paying for them. I’ve personally never heard that etiquette rule before. My Fiance was in 2 weddings in the last year and was forced to wear a tux in both. He was so uncomfortable that I could never ask him to wear one for our wedding. Instead the guys will be wearing nice khaki pants, white button down shirt, tie and a navy blazer (about $85 for the outfit). I dont think any of them will have a problem shelling that out when it costs even more to rent a tux that you dont get to keep.
I dont have the specific dress picked out yet but I have some in mind. As for alterations, I would never get them done at DB (heard way too many horror stories). We have a family friend who is a seamstress who will give us a great deal.
Post # 6
Your budget and number of guests are right in line with mine. I’ve planned 50 different ways (I really should be a wedding planner) and ended up with almost the exact same price everytime. That’s even changing venues and everything. Don’t stress over it, I’m sure it will be wonderful.
Post # 7
The only thing I think you probably might go over is in apparel and accesories/beauty. Everything elses seems right on target since our wedding was around $20,000 and we had double your guests. And I agree with the above poster the less details you share with people the better, everyone will always have a comment one way or another!
Post # 8
@beekiss2: I’ve never heard of having to pay for the groomsmen’s tuxes. The BMs pay for their own dresses, and as far as I’ve ever known so do the groomsmen.
Post # 9
you budget is bigger than mine and i have more than double the number of guests u have… who cares what people think.. i wouldnt tell them what the budget is just to save myself the earache. alot of people do think a classy wedding has to cost a fortune.. but it doesnt.
Post # 10
I try not to talk about money but most of our friends and family are too nosey for their own good and ask. I’m definitely going to keep it on the DL from now on though.
As for transportation, all of our wedding festivities are at the same resort and that is also where we will be staying before and after the wedding so we dont really need it.
The photographer was a great find. He just got married so when I expressed my budget concerns he totally understood. Our actual photo budget was $1000 but he was able to customize a package for us and get rid of some of the bells and whistles that we really didnt need (slide show with music backing – I can do that myself if I really want it anyways).
Post # 11
some misc items that you may want to budget for:
– stationary items like thank you cards, wedding program, menu cards, escort cards
– i assume you are not doing favors?
– even if you are re-using the Bridesmaid or Best Man bouquets as centerpieces, do you have the glassware or are you just going to stand them on the table?
– wedding bands
– hotel costs (if applicable)
– does your catering fee include linen, chair, silverware/glassware rental?
Post # 12
@JennyChicago: thats the main thing I’m concerned with going over on too. I just need to keep myself in check and be mindful of my ridiculously small dress budget 🙂
Post # 13
I think a real simple way to get them to stop being nosey about the budget would be to tell them that it really depends on how much they’re contributing to it.
Post # 14
@zaylee: Pretty much everything you mentioned is already included in our budget. We are doing a dessert buffet for the favors and all stationary (menus, programs, etc) are included in the invitation total (probably should have labeled that as stationary, huh?). The centerpieces will be the pomanders ontop of glass vases filled with glass beads and water surrounded with votives. I’m able to get most of the stuff needed for those from the dollar store and that cost is already factored into the “misc decoration” total.
Our venue provides all tables, chairs, linens, silverware, glassware, etc for free. There is also no cake cutting fee.
We will get our wedding night for free at the resort but I will be staying there the night before as well to get ready. I didnt factor that cost into the budget but thats only like another $150 or so.
Post # 15
@Loribeth: I like the way you think!