Post # 31
I’m not sure why so many people are bothering to argue whether or not you SHOULD have been invited. The most important question is whether or not you ARE invited—-nevermind “should be.”
I would say that you’re not invited based on the evidence. The only way to know for sure is to ask. If you don’t feel comfortable asking, then I guess you don’t go to the wedding. Your boyfriend can decide to go or not based on his feelings.
Just don’t show up to the wedding without getting a clear confirmation that you’re invited.
Post # 32
- Wedding: August 2019 - Eden Project, Cornwall, United Kingdom
We basically answered sure if you’re paying for your plus one 😂
Post # 33
if both partners were actually my friend, I’d have invited them separately. If only one was a such a close friend that I’d care if their feelings would be hurt or not, I’d have the conversation about my limitations with space very early.
My father has 10 brothers and sisters and my mother has 5 siblings ( not counting her half siblings). There is no way I’d be able to invite all my cousins, their partners , their children and my friends, their partners and children. We decided on our parameters which included no children except the flower girl and only married, engaged, or those who live together. I’d invite those who live together because I think it’s weird to invite 1 person from a household and not the other. It’s not because I think they are more “serious” than those who don’t.
Thankfully that rule does not affect my VIPs.
Post # 34
Well in your case since you said your rule doesn’t effect your VIPs/your friends that works out then in your favor I guess.