(Closed) Am I obligated to share all my pro pics with my MIL?

posted 10 years ago in Photos/Videos
Post # 17
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5151 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I would talk to the photographer or company and see if they can edit it like suggested above or else I would just pull the pictures you do not want. You have a VERY good reason to pull the pictures and hopefully your Mother-In-Law will understand (if she even has to know)

Post # 18
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3331 posts
Sugar bee

I definitely don’t think you’re obligated to show all of the photos, especially the more revealing ones.  It’s too bad your photographer wasn’t more flexible when you talked to him about it.  You’d think he’d be willing to pull them for you from the proofs.

Post # 19
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1084 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Grrr photographer.  Pull them (but don’t delete, you never know if they’ll grow on you).  If your IL keep pester you can always find someone to touch them up.

Post # 20
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1900 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Do you own the rights to your photos? If you do, I would just take out the photos you don’t like for now and let your Mother-In-Law choose from them. Then, find someone else who can edit them for you and give some of the formal shots to your Mother-In-Law as a gift for Christmas or order a book from somewhere else for her after they are edited.

Post # 21
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672 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

I think it’s totally within your rights to pull out ones that you’d feel uncomfortable being displayed in a house or given out to people.  Maybe it’s harsh, but if she doesn’t like it, tough.  It’s fair for you to deny access to photos that you feel look too revealing.

Post # 22
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4479 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

You definitely don’t have to share them all with her. Just give her the proofs where you’re comfortable with your dress’ positioning (oy) and tell her that those are the ones that are available. If it doesn’t go over well, don’t cave! You have a right not to have photos printed of you where you’re uncomfortable with what your dress is showing.

Post # 23
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

If the photographer isn’t willing to fix them (Boo!) I’d say just let her pick from the ones you offer… pull out whatever you don’t like.

Post # 25
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1900 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Reading this last post from you makes me change my mind. It does sound like she is going way overboard. If she want all these formal shots and they do not exist, then, yes, she can arrange for them to be taken during a holiday or family reunion (that she can host:-))

Post # 27
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Well, my point was, that she doesn’t know that it exists, right? There are a lot of things that you will not tell Mother-In-Law about and this will just be one of them.

Post # 29
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

BUT she doesn’t know if the photog screwed something up on those shots.  I’d still just pull what you don’t like.  She can always hire someone to retake family photos.

Post # 30
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1900 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Can’t you just tell her that the shot didn’t come out? Not every photo a phtographer takes turns out. That’s why they have certan caluses in their contracts. I know that this would be making your photog look bad, but under the circumstances, it might be the best option.

Post # 31
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1084 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Just get them touched up – you probably can get it done super cheap from someone on etsy or somewhere, just send them the file and they’ll send it back and then no lies or fighting or headache if she’s going to keep pestering and really wants the photo

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