Post # 32
She e-mailed me wondering when she would get to look at the pro pics and specifically mentioned wanting to see certain portraits and that she wanted to be able to choose for herself which ones to order. I responded and told her I am pulling out the boob shots and that some portraits might get tossed. I’d rather be honest than try to convince her that an otherwise decent photographer managed to screw up the occassional formal photo here and there.
If she really wants a certain photo, I will very reluctantly look into photoshopping a few.
I just hate dealing with this stuff.
Post # 33
We have been e-mailing back and forth and she is super understanding. I guess I panicked over nothing.
But thanks for the feedback. Knowing I wasn’t being totally unreasonable about wanting to keep my boobs out of the photos made it easier to tell her some of the photos were being tossed.
Post # 34
Hi! I’ve been reading through some posts on here to get back into a “bride” frame of mind (so much has changed, even in five years!).
I’m fairly handy with Photoshop. Do you have the hi-res files? I’d be glad to do one for you at no cost. I just feel so bad for you–you shouldn’t have to hide your wedding pics! (And this speaks to me–my high school senior picture STILL drives me nuts because the photog didn’t bother to tell me to hike up my dress!)
If you have a number of them, I could negotiate something with you…. But I’d gladly do one for you just so you can have *something*!
Please let me know if I can help.
Post # 35
Wow! What a generous offer! I am going to go home and dig through them and see if I can scrape up enough photos, but I will e-mail you if we really need to make more of them work.
That is really kind. This place is amazing.
Post # 36
Honestly, it’s my pleasure. It really might be because I cringe every time I see that picture on my parent’s mantel. WAY too much cleavage for my folks’ family room!
If you have one that you love *except* for the dress issue, please do send it along and I’ll do my best.
Post # 37
@alicia – That is so kind and generous of you!
Post # 38
Erm NO! You’re totally justified in your feelings about these photos. Can you maybe say there was a problem with some of them when they were getting developed, and get the photographer to remove them from any web based albums?
Or you could look into photo shopping them with @alicia 🙂
I know how you feel though, my FI’s family are really snap happy at parties etc, and it annoys the living p**s out of me, because every time I turn on the computer and log onto facebook there’s a wonderful shot of my double chin and boobs practically hanging out posted, not just the one I might add!
Post # 39
while you have an EXTREMELY valid reason for not wanting her to see them, consider her position…as well as how much she contributed to the wedding budget. you are definitely not in the wrong, but just try to see it from her side?
Post # 40
I think for the sake of your relationship w/ the hubs and his mom, it might be worth giving in on *one or two* of these kinds of photos, but asking her to display them at her discretion (e.g. not on the mantle over the fireplace).
If anyone else asks for them, I’d politely decline & tell them that you didn’t do a lot of formal shots – you can always blame it on the photojournalism trend in wedding photography these days 🙂
Post # 41
If it were me, easy option, i would pull them. But if that means that you’d have NO shots of some “groups” of the family, I actually might even ask the photographer to digitally edit them. Not sure what kind of photographer you went with, but most these days should be able to touch them up so that it looks more modest (i am a photographer myself, but do not do weddings).