- 4 months ago
Hi! I have posted on here before but that was over 2 years ago so felt like posting again since things have changed since then. I’m sorry that this is long and a bit all over the place and is kind of a rant/questioning. I’m 27 and he’s 32- I’m his first actual relationship.
I’ve been with my boyfriend for just over 3 years now and we are so in love and compliment each other so well. He looks after me and is always there for me and I can talk to him about anything. I can be my true self around him. When I posted last time about wanting to get engaged he said he wanted to live together first and though that upset me at the time, I think he made the right judgement on that. We’ve been living together now since the start of October and it has all been perfect, we don’t argue and I have a lot of fun living with him.
At the start of the year I started feeling a lot more eager and desperate about getting engaged. I brought it up with him in February and he said he can see himself proposing either this year or if not the next. I stupidly took that to mean it would most likely happen this year and I really hoped deep down he would propose for our 3 year anniversary at the start of June. We spoke about engagement again a week or so after (I didn’t mention my upset it didn’t happen on our anniversary) and I got really upset as he said he didn’t want to propose in a lockdown as he thinks that would be unromantic and we wouldn’t be able to celebrate with others. Then he admitted that it was unlikely to happen this year as he didn’t know how long the lockdown was going to go on for and a lot of other reasons such as not wanting to take thunder away from some of my other friends who are pregnant or recently engaged (which I told him was rubbish and that there would never be a perfect time in life which is completely clear from others events). I then ended up crying not being manipulative, just really stressed and emotional (personal things too) and saying it felt as if he didn’t want it as much as I do and it felt as if he wasn’t as serious or excited about it as I was and that I was worried he’d find some excuse or reason to put it off next year and then said I won’t wait and become a 5 year girlfriend and that I’d most likely propose myself before reaching the 5 year mark if he doesn’t do it himself. He is someone who is very nervous and likes taking things slowly and is quite traditional as well. He reassured me that I wouldn’t and that he will definitely propose in this time frame.
Well after that it all felt ok again and I felt reassured as I would trust him with my life and he has never broken a promise to me before. So I do believe he’ll propose in his time frame. I ended up showing him some rings that I liked since he wasn’t sure what I liked, along with some links and I’ve given him my ring size a couple of days ago and he loves one of them and asked if that’s the one I would want-to which I said yes.
Am I officially waiting now? Do you think he might end up changing his mind on proposing this year now he has ring info? Can anyone give me any insight? I know I probably come off as demanding or bossy but I really can’t bear the thought of going through this year and not getting engaged and then expecting it next year and it still for some reason not happening. Please don’t be too harsh on me or my boyfriend~ he really is such a wonderful person and i can’t imagine life with out him.