(Closed) Am I over exaggerating?

posted 5 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
9916 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Yeah, I’d tell the groomsman that either she doesn’t come, or he’s not in the wedding.  That’s ridiculous.

Post # 4
3223 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I wouldn’t stand for that either. And who would want to go to a bachelor party as the only girl? Awkward much? I’d tell him that if he can’t accept your guidelines for your wedding then he and his magnet of a girlfriend can just be guests. I’d get your Fiance to reiterate so Groomsmen knows this is both of yours decision. 

Post # 5
1251 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I could live with her coming to pick up the tux and accompanying him to the rehearsal dinner. But to demand that she be at the bachelor party (wtf?!) and get ready with the guys the morning of is just unreal. I can’t believe the Groomsmen is on board with this. What kind of hold does she have over him!? I can just see my FI’s face if I told him I was accompanying him to a bachelor party. He would not mince his words!

Post # 6
292 posts
Helper bee

You did everything you could go make it work with them. Either they follow your plans or “promote” them to guests. 

Post # 8
7673 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@mandauhhxo:  I’m 100% with you. She can come to the rehearsal, rehearsal dinner, tux pickup. But she cannot come to guys only things (bachelor party, guys getting ready in the morning), and also has to let him walk in with a bridesmaid (because they’ll be walking arm in arm for 30 seconds, not dry humping on the floor). If he’s not prepared to do those little things then yes, he should step down from the bridal party.

Post # 9
438 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

EFF.THAT. I’d drop him like a hot potato.

But seriously.

That is ridiculous. You’re better off with out him if he is going to be unsupportive, and at this point if you give in to demands it will just be awkward and tense. 


Post # 10
1465 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@mandauhhxo:  Yeah, Groomsmen and his girl friend are clearly in the wrong! I can’t believe they would treat you that way and put their ridiculous needs before you. I think it’s better that he dropped out now with you having the time to plan for it. Seriously, I have never even HEARD of any GM’s SO going to a bachelor party…

Post # 11
733 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@mandauhhxo:  At the end of the day it is your and your FI’s day and if they can’t respect your wishes than they don’t need to be in the bridal party. If they choose to come as guests great but she is out of line saying she NEEDS to do everything her boyfriend of 2 months is doing. You’ve made multiple attempts to make her feel included and you’ve done everything you can do to make everyone happy but I wouldn’t want my FI’s Groomsmen to run the show with his SO!!!

Post # 12
615 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Smithfield Center

Bye bye groomsman!

Honestly, his girlfriend sounds like a completely crazy person. You’re seriously that insecure that you’re not going to let your boyfriend walk arm in arm with a bridesmaid for 30 seconds? 

Add the fact that the groomsman supports this despite your attempts to include her in your own plans so she wasn’t left out = an absolutely horrid couple. Be GLAD he stepped down and you don’t have to deal with their unhealthy relationship.

Post # 13
336 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@mandauhhxo:  They don’t need to spend every second of every day together.  I think it’s incredibly gracious of you and your Fiance to extend the invite to her in the first place.  That’s sorta the expectation when you agree to be in a wedding party.  You have duties to help with the bride and groom.  I think you offering to let her get ready with you is even above and beyond! (Clearly you’re very sweet).  Was she upset he might be walking down the isle with one of your Bridesmaid or Best Man and insist it be her instead?  Although she may not know anyone, she should just show her guy how well she can do in a social situation rather than being this clingy chick.  Though ultimately I think it’s up to you, inviting her to the rehearsal dinner would have been a good thing, because then she could meet people in a smaller, less formal setting, but she should know better than to go to a BACHELOR party or getting ready with the wedding party/GM before the wedding.  That’s just weird.

Post # 14
9181 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

They both sound nutso to me. If he’s willing to drop out over this, then it sounds like good riddance to me!

Post # 15
10453 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

That is super weird. And he would bring her to the bachelor party? What the hell is he thinking… I can’t even believe she would WANT to go to that? It sucks that he’s out now, but honestly this pair sounds craaaazy. 

Post # 16
2299 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I get why he wants her at the rehearsal/dinner, but why on earth would she want to be there the morning of with all the guys? That just seems super awkward for her….and for all of the other guys….

ETA:  And the bachelor party????  Seriously.  If I were that guy I’d be running from her!  What girl wants to go to a bachelor party?  Ick!

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