posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
1315 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2017 - Seattle, WA

I’m a bit confused; what’s wrong with her wearing a silver dress?


Post # 4
7217 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Kings7911:  +1 I’m a bit confused

Post # 5
1849 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@mandauhhxo:  Definitely overreacting. Calm down, take a bubble bath, eat some chocolate, and think about some things that could have gone wrong and become real problems, but didn’t 🙂

Also consider how much you’ll regret wasting your energy on throwing a fit about this when it’ll all be over in 2 weeks and her dress has no bearing on anything. 


Post # 6
5966 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

Hmm, I think you might be emotional with the stress of th wedding.  And I say that from a place of love having just had a total meltdown myself about something not-that-important two days ago.

I don’t think it’s a big deal if your step mom wears silver.  It’ll be fine, just ignore it.

Post # 7
3082 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I think you’re over reacting a bit. It’s silver…not white. Everyone’s eyes will be on you regardless. 

Post # 8
1409 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2009

It sounds like you’re overreacting unless I’m missing some info?

Post # 9
145 posts
Blushing bee

I’ve never heard that silver is the color for the mother of the bride. Maybe it is in the OP’s town? Or, is it a silver accented white/ivory dress?

Post # 10
125 posts
Blushing bee

First of all- try not to freak out.  You are the bride and this is YOUR day and you need not worry about things that (in my opinion) are minor next to the entire day.  You are going to be surrounded by so many people who love and care abuot you, and yes, it’s bound to happen that someone will do something that you don’t like.  What matters is that you are marrying the love of your life and honestly- what else matters??


HOWEVER, If it’s feasible, and if this were me, I would say it’s worth approaching..in the right way.   I’m not sure of how close you two are, but it might be worth a conversation.  Seeing as your wedding is so close, I have no idea if it’s even possible for her to get a new dress, but me, being the complete type A, need to voice my opinion or my skinwill crawl, kind of person, I’d politely call her and have a chat with her.  Say that after seeing the dress in person, you really feel like it’s very close in color to your dress, and that while it’s a pretty dress, you feel that it’s inappropriate to wear to a wedding.  Perhaps it would be better suited for another formal occasion?  Emphasize the fact that you have had your dress for ages, are so excited to wear it and be the bride and HAVE YOUR DAY, and that you would prefer she respect you as the bride and wear something else. 

Now, she might be cool with it, and change- great!! But she might say to hell with you and wear it anyway.  If she does, she does… dont let it ruin YOUR DAY!!! At least you will know that you voiced your opinion.  If you go about it like an adult, she will have to feel pretty foolish walking in trying to be all bride-y.  Unfortunately, weddings can sometimes bring out the absolute worst in people, but again, don’t let any outcome ruin your day.  Just focus on you, your new husband, and the amazing life you have in front of you.  No one will be looking at her anyway!!!  Good luck!  Post the outcome and pix of your wedding!

Post # 11
888 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

I am always of the belief that wedding guests should be allowed to wear whatever color they want to wear (including white) because really, whoever misses the girl in the white puffy dress is just an idiot.  Who ever mistakes a guest for the bride?  Seriously,  I do not see what the big deal is.  Someone wore white at my wedding.  I loved the way she looked.  

Post # 12
2250 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

You are definitely overreacting (not over exaggerating). It’s a dress. You are the bride, you are the one who all of the attention will be on, not your future Mother-In-Law. Maybe have a glass of wine, eat some nice chocolate, and try to relax a little.

Post # 13
8042 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

It’s not white. I also assume she has like 20+ years on you. No one will mistake her for the bride. Calm down.

Post # 15
7283 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

You’re overreacting in a very big way. No one is going to get confused over who the bride is! 

Post # 16
1839 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

yep, majorly overreacting. not worth stressing out about.

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