Post # 1
i guess i’m here to see if anyone else is facing the issue and how did u handle it… i apologize but this is going to be long..
It been 10 years with my bf, in the starting of the relation he did cheat on me (he had a girl send him all nude pics) confronted him and he was sure he wanted to be with me so he deleted those email and that account… Fast forward we set a date to tie the knot and again he cheated (i guess he wasn’t ready to get married although he was excited to discuss about wedding stuff but not for long) he was constantly msging this girl… avoiding me… i felt something was wrong and even got to the point to finish off the relation at first he was ready to let go of me but this time i wanted to work things out and would talk to him and ask him where i went wrong, he said he didn’t love me the same anymore… after a few days he said he wanted things to work out for us i was HAPPY… but then got to know he didn’t leave msging that girl… he would msg her when i wouldn’t be around him or would leave his phone at home or keep it on silent… still i tried my best to get him back coz deep down i couldn’t imagine myself without him.. finally he cut that girl from his life as he said that was foolish thing he has done. However he got a job abroad after that and has been loyal so far.(ldr)
Now we have set our minds to get married next year.. the only thing that is troubling me is that he isn’t giving me time… yes i have an anxiety issue and i made him aware of that. we would hardly send 2 – 3 a day. skyping has been once a week coz of the work hours. and the day we have to skype he has other commitments such as grocery shopping o a training session at his work place… i loose it each time i don’t get to skype…. he hasn’t giving a timeline. and each time i talk about it he tells me WE STILL GOT TIME ITS TO EARLY TO DISCUSS.
Last night he was to Skype with me as he was off but unfortunately he was sleeping as during the day he went with roommates (to donate blood) and later do grocery shopping so he got tired to skype with me late at night… although he was seen on whatapp…
I dont feel the same with him anymore and i told him that. i feel like i’m walking on egg shells. there comes a point where i never want to contact him again but afraid to let go… deep down i love this way too much. i feel he gives more importance to his friends then he should give me. I’m just going insane 🙁
Post # 2
This is harsh- I apologize in advance.
Neither of you sound ready for marriage.
Post # 3
I’m sorry but I would been LONG GONE after the two cheating incidents……..
Post # 4
I reckon this is a guy you need to let go.
Post # 5
Seems to me like you are wasting your life on this guy. Ha had his chances. After what he have done, HE should be the one running after YOU, not the other way around. Leave! You deserve better!
Post # 6
Its pretty obviously he’s a liar. Why put yourself through the anxiety? Do you want to spend the rest of your life like that? Get out while you can. You’ll never meet Mr. Right, chasing Mr. Wrong.
Post # 7
Are you really so desperate to get married that you’ll settle for a cheater? He’s cheated on you TWICE (that you know of)…. It’s time to find your backbone and walk away. What exactly are the benefits to being in a relationship with someone you cannot trust?
Post # 8
Oh gosh. Don’t marry this guy. He’s a cheating loser. It’ll only hurt worse later
Post # 9
run… run far away!
You deserve someone who will respect your relationship. And you need someone who will respect you.
Mail him back his ring and turn off Skype. You will be better off for it, I promise!
Post # 10
You are underacting and yoy have done so a few times now. Please LEAVE..
Post # 11
You say he’s been loyal since moving abroad but… how do you know that? He’s sooooo busy that he can only skype with you once a week? And even then, he’s sometimes too busy for that?? Yeah, girl, he’s still cheating on you.
Post # 12
You need to kick him to the curb and get a big dose of confidence. This is one of the saddest posts I’ve read in a long time.
Post # 13
You two don’t belong together. He cheated on you and now you’re going to be stuck with this anxiety. Break up with him and then work on getting your self-esteem back together. It’ll be rough not being in a relationship when you’ve been with someone for 10 years.
Break out of your “safe” zone and be in a relationship where you want to be with the guy and the guy wants to be with you. There should be a mutual love and respect coming from both ends, but that’s not the case on either side.
Post # 14
This guy doesn’t want to marry you. Relationships require effort from both sides, but a healthy relationship shouldn’t be this hard. He’s shown you how he feels about you by cheating twice and not taking the effort to keep in contact while in a long distance relationship. You’re holding on because you’re scared of letting go. You have to let it go in order to find out what a happy, healthy relationship feels like.
Post # 15
- Wedding: October 2019 - City, State
MrsDtobesoon: I hate to be harsh but….. he’s just not that into you. It makes me sad that you don’t have more respect for yourself. this man has repeatedly cheated on you and yet you had to try and convince HIM to be with YOU? Of course he comes back. You are convenient. He can have his cake and eat it too. Please love yourself enough to leave him and never look back. You deserve so much better than what he is giving you.