Post # 31
away84691 : That would’ve been a dealbreaker for me before marriage. That’s the sort of dishonesty that proves he is a person who cannot be trusted. The excuse that “I didn’t tell you because you’d make a big deal about it” is bullshit.
To me, that’s borderline cheating/infidelity. Whether anything happened between them or not, if you have to hide it from your partner, you know you shouldn’t be doing it.
Post # 32
thebeekeeper : sometimes I kick myself for being so naive and not smart about it back then. I would have def made different choices if I can go back
Post # 33
. . . the only reason he lied to me was because I would make a big deal.
That statement says it all, Bee. His lying is your fault. Do you see how convoluted and dishonest that is? It’s also gaslighting.
This is not a guy willing to take personal responsibility for his own behavior. That is major, and goes to character.
I suggest getting him out of your life as quickly as possible. These people don’t get better with a little counseling. This is who he is, at his core.
Post # 34
away84691 : I would have def made different choices if I can go back
But you can go back. It’s called divorce.