(Closed) Am I over reacting? :(

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
4824 posts
Honey bee

Is sounds like you might be being baited. Like the older brother that keeps teasing the younger sister, its best to ignore and eventually they will lose interest.

I would ask him to just ignore any posts in the future. Do not respond to them at all or delete. Even deleting is a reaction/response.  They will get tired of writing him if they get no response (even if no harm is meant) and if it is meant to be annoying, they wont get the reaction they want and will stop.

Post # 4
322 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

@lefeymw: I agree.  Even though I know it’s so hard to just let them continue.  Hopefully they will quit the petty BS once they stop getting a reaction.  Sorry hun 🙁

Post # 5
467 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

if i were you i would be irratated too – it just seems like theyre really juvenile and like theyre trying to make you look crazy – that theyre just being “friendly” and you come off as the lunatic who freaks out when they post

totally agree with @lefeymw: i would tell him that it bothers you, ask him his feelings on it, and then try to ignore it – i hate to say it but the more he deletes what they say, the more theyre going to post to try to get to you

just remember – he loves you, and thats what’s getting to them 😉

Post # 6
5977 posts
Bee Keeper

@lefeymw: I totally agree with the OP being baited!

 @stardustintheeyes: Do you have a FB page? I’m thinking you do since you can see his wall (unless you’re logging in as him). I would comment on her post and just say, “I know…isn’t he great? Can’t wait to meet you both!” Kill em with kindness and let them know that they aren’t getting under your skin, but you’re keeping an eye on them. Fight fire with fire girl!

Post # 7
2216 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Ugh!  I feel the same way when FI’s exes facebook him.   I just try and not let it get to me (even though simetimes it does!).  These girls are just looking for attention.  Hopefully when your boy doesn’t give it to them, the girls will look for attention elsewhere.  

Post # 8
105 posts
Blushing bee

Facebook is the devil.  I am obsessed.  It’s not healthy though. 

My ex just put his relationship status on Facebook (mind you, we ended our engagement and 5-year relationship just months ago), and it left me feeling bitter, even though I know they have been dating for a few months now. 

I agree with PP, try to ignore as much as possible.  Discuss your concerns with your SO.  Even though he thinks FB is stupid (which it is), it means something to you, and it is offensive to you and your relationship.  I think you just ignore and don’t give them (the girls) the power.  Block their posts from your FB account if you can, so you don’t see them.

Post # 10
6998 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

@2PeasinaPod: love your idea! killing with kindess usually always works

it really really irks me when girls do that – i have no respect for women (or men) who attempt to stir up trouble when they know someone is in a relationship. its just disrespectful and trashy.

It seems Fiance has a good handle on it though – be happy he isnt involving himself in it.

Post # 11
114 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Fiance and I don’t have facebook and this is partly the reason. You can not control what people will say on your page, therefore you can not prevent your SO’s feelings from getting hurt. 


With that being said, I would agree with the other people that have posted, just ignore these girls. Silence is the killer, and this will die out!!


Good luck

Post # 13
3363 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

They are being very immature and looking for (and wanting) him to delete their posts.  They want that reaction from you.  Think of how irritated they will be if you ignore it!!!  I think that is the best revenge.  They will get bored with it, or even feel foolish for trying to upset you. 

Post # 15
3142 posts
Sugar bee

Do you know these girls? Have you met them before?

You guys are all much nicer than I.  This kind of stunt, imo, should result in your S.O blocking them on FB or at the very least, deleting them as friends. I am sure that he is keenly aware they are posting that stuff just to be B*tchy.

When my FH changed his FB status to ‘in a relationship’ after we’d been together for a bit, a girl who he’d had a casual fling with about 8 months prior to meeting me, commented on the status and said “I’m so happy for you”.  I didn’t really care but he thought it was stupid and deleted it and her. (he thinks FB is geigh and only goes on for the same reasons your SO does)


Good luck!

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