(Closed) Am I over-reacting?

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I don’t think you’re overreacting at all, and I’d probably feel the same way in your situation. You said your hubby’s friend wanted to do dinner at 6, but you don’t hear anything definitive till 8:45? As in almost three hours after your original plans? You could have eaten a nice leisurely dinner and still have had time to go home and relax! I don’t think I would get into it with the friend or anything–yes, it’s his prerogative to be late–but he can’t expect you to just sit around and wait for him and constantly rearrange your life for him. He is being inconsiderate, and missing out on dinner with you is one of the consequences of his lateness.  

Post # 5
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I am someone who often runs “on my own time”.  And if I am running late I fully expect people to leave without me, order dinner, etc.  It isn’t their fault I tell time worse than a 5 year old.  Anything else is just selfish.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

You did the right thing. It’s his perogative to be late. It’s your perogative to eat when you are hungry and not be held up after re-arranging your schedule. You weren’t being inflexible. If it was a one-time thing, that’s a different story — but it’s not.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@mwitter80: That was super inconsiderate of them! I don’t blame you for getting your own dinner and going home!

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

@mwitter80: Noo, you really aren’t. I’m okay with friends being 10-15 minutes late but more than an hour? Hell no. I think your Darling Husband is overreacting. You’ve seemed to go along with waiting on his rude friend for quite awhile.

The call during desert sounds fine to me though. Since it’s at the end of a meal then it wouldn’t offend me. Though he does sound inconsiderate/a little self-centered from the rest of it.

Can I just add, I really hate when I’m talking to a friend at a restaurant, and they get a phone call BUT they don’t say, “hey can I take this?”, instead they just answer their phone in the middle of what I am saying and I look like an idiot when my conversation with them just trails off into me mumbling…I can’t stand it. Or worse, when they TEXT while I am talking to them about something important.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Yeah, he sounds like an ass. I would be annoyed too…waiting on someone that often? Bleh. And Darling Husband is just defending him? That’s weird, your Darling Husband must be pretty easy going to deal with that and not speak up.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

No, I don’t believe you’re over-reacting.  I find it was inconsiderate on their part.  Just because someone else operates on their own time doesn’t mean everyone else has to wait around for them.  Sorry, but this impatient lady doesn’t wait for anyone.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

He can be as late as he wants to be. Doesn’t mean that you have to adjust your life around him. And seems like to me that his reasons for being late are pretty stupid. I would understand if it’s out of your character to be late, but you were late because your car broken down, there was a huge accident somewhere, etc. But he’s just late for the heck of being late. TOTALLY UNACCEPTABLE!!! There are people floating around on this Earth thinking that everyone else always has enough time on their hands to cater to these persons’ needs.

Post # 14
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Personally I would be irritated if he was late, but if its my FI’s friend from out of town I would still go. Its just nice to be nice. I would have had a small snack and then still go out for dinner and ordered something small. Going home and skipping the dinner would definitely make my Fiance mad, and it would make me mad too if the roles were reversed.

Post # 16
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@mwitter80: LOL! it all worked out…

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