(Closed) AM I OVER REACTING??? need advice

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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792 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

oh my goodness, what a hostile little b*itch… well obviously your fi can NOT accomodate her requests and he just needs to put her in her place. That is a totally unreasonable, ridiculous thing to ask of him and I’m getting mad thinking about it. I don’t understand why your fi’s friend is marrying her, doesn’t he understand that this woman cannot be trusted… I mean she cheated on him five times. Does he not have any self-respect? She treats him like crap and now she’s treating you and your fi like crap. If I knew her I would have some very strong words for her.

Post # 4
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272 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

OMG!!  I wouldn’t know what to do either. I would be fuming. I wouldn’t know if I should say something to her, or if I would just vent to my Fiance a lot.  I think he is being a little …you know what.  Can I ask how old she is??  She seems to be VERY immature.

Post # 5
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1149 posts
Bumble bee

I agree that you have to put your foot down.  If your best man is really your FI’s friend he would understand about the timing. 

Maybe they could have a shorter trip and still go that week if the timing of that week is so important to best man?   That compromise would be INCREDIBLY gracious of you (if you could accommodate that) and would still give you the help you need from Fiance in the days right before the wedding.   But the week prior would probably be better.  

I think this is a matter that your Fiance needs to settle with his best man and his best man needs to put his foot down to the fiancee. 

Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper

It sounds like your Fiance is handling the situation well.  Hopefully, he’s not reconsidering what he told her.  If she wants to rant about it, so be it.  Just let her be and try to get as FAR away from her planning as possible (ie: don’t entertain people telling you about it, etc.)  The less you know the better off you’ll be.  

This is a bit off topic, but I’m curious what Fiance thinks of his buddy’s behavior in taking cheater back… 

Post # 7
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1080 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

What a b. If I were your Fiance I would call up my friend and arrange directly with him, avoid her and her stuipdity.

Post # 8
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6597 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

Why is cheater talking for best man?

I am not so sure I believe that these are best man’s wishes!!!

I say get Fiance to call best man and work it out – guys can do this themselves – cheater doesn’t have to be the go between!

And I would make sure your Fiance stays strong in what he wants – best mans buck is NOT more important than FI’s wedding!!!!!

Post # 9
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131 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I can’t imagine that best man would want to go on a camping trip and come back the day before the wedding that he is the best man in.  What about a rehearsal?  What about common sense?!  It sounds like cheater is trying to drive you crazy!  I also want to know why cheater is talking for best man… it’s not her business when the buck is.

Post # 12
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1371 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I would have your fiance talk to the best man directly about what he wants and avoid the cheater as much as possible.  Don’t worry about her copying your wedding, since yours is first!  It’s not worth the headache.  Unless she talks to you directly, I’d stay out of it and let your fiance handle it.

Post # 13
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792 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

geez… she paired him with his ex? that is just so disrespectful. Does your fi really need to be in this wedding? We all want to support our friends, but part of being a TRUE friend is telling someone when they are royally messing up.

Post # 14
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

OMG she is nuts. I think that your Fiance needs to deal with her and tell best man to make her pipe down.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee

I agree with the previous posters.  She is crazy and just plain mean.  Your Fiance needs to talk to his friend directly and explain why he can’t go camping the weekend before your wedding.  If this guy is a friend, he will completely understand.  

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I don’t have a problem with their setting their wedding a month after yours.  And I don’t have a problem with their using the same groomsmen outfits since their wedding is second, and any judgement would be made on them, not you (and believe me there will be so much judgement at their wedding that no one will notice what the groomsmen are wearing).  It’s a stupid decision on the slutty bride’s part, but it won’t reflect poorly on you in the slightest.

But it is completely unacceptable for the slutty bride to tell your husband he needs to organize a bachelor party the week before his own wedding.  They knew your wedding date when they set their wedding date; when they chose that date they chose the consequence of the best man having limited time to assist with their wedding.  

 

I completely agree with the previous poster who said that your Fiance should speak to the groom directly to plan the bachelor party.  If he is sane, he won’t expect his friend to miss the days before his wedding.  If he isn’t, then frankly he isn’t much of a friend and considering what a pain the slutty bride is, you really don’t need this kind of aggravation in your life.

 

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