(Closed) Am I over reacting? Need some advice..

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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7647 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

I would suggest breaking this into paragraphs, for starters.

Why are you so protective over your room if you don’t even live there anymore? I understand it is storage area, but that seriously seems selfish. You parents need to make that decision of who to let stay or not. Perhaps you need to move your stuff to a different lcoation if you don’t want it to smell and what not.

I agree, this guy is disgusting, and I wish your mom could see the light, but I don’t know why you would let this ruin you and your mom’s relationship you have been working so hard to build up. Again, let your mom and dad dealwith it since it is their house. It is hard to see your family go through this, but all you can do at this point is just talk to you mom. If even your dad can’t get her to see then it is your dad’s responsibility to put his foot down and say something if your mom isn’t.

 

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

Ah ok. I understand your situation a little better now. I wonder what your mom would do if you said you wanted to move back in to your old room and sleep there too? Not saying you would do that (in the state the room is now I sure as hell wouldn’t).

You kind of are stuck if your mom won’t listen to anyone, including your dad. It’s a tough situation to be in, that’s for sure. I think you dad really needs to stand up to her and kick this guy out though. Really, he’s damagining the house and relationships with his choices. Maybe your dad, sister, and you need to have an intervention with your mom or something.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I agree with the above poster. It’s not “your room” anymore- it’s your parents’ room that they were letting you use. Plans change. I understand this guy is rude, selfish, slovenly, and annoying, but it’s up to your parents to put a stop to it. I’d suggest for the sake of having a good relationship you just drop it. I understand it sucks to see people you love get taken advantage of, but you need to let the people who are directly involved handle it. Nothing good is going to come of you continually complaining to your mom about your cousin. 

Post # 7
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6221 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

I see nothing wrong with most of the stuff about smoking with your FI’s brother, spending a lot of time in your room, etc., but your dad needs to stand up to him and your mother. If he doesn’t want to drive him, he shouldn’t. He should say that he’s a grown man who should have his own apartment and his own car. Honestly, though, I would move out and make some arrangement with your inlaws that some area of space can be yours. Or you and your Fiance should just get your own place.

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