Post # 1
I know guy talk…I know it too well. And for the most part, it doesn’t bother me. But for sometimes, when Fiance is hanging out with his single friends, or talking to them, he or they will say something that i think is totally inappropriate to say in front of me. Like “Have you hit that yet? and what does it look like?” Umm…hello?! I’m sitting RIGHT HERE! And then when I get a little upset about it, I’m wrong. How is that right? If you’re gonna talk like that fine, but when I’m there? I find it just a bit dis-respectful. I know maybe I’m over-reacting…or PMS-ing but still. I don’t talk about other men’s private parts in front of my man.
Post # 3
I think it is disrespectful too! My Fiance does that, but I know he is joking, and really doesn’t want to know the details. Maybe he is joking as well?
Post # 4
woah .. they ask what it looks like?! Um, what kind of responses do they get?!
Post # 5
I’d be kinda offended too. Can you say something to him in private? Maybe he doesn’t realize that it does offend you, and that he thinks it’s just a joke. (Which I bet he does).
Post # 6
I agree with pumpkinlovespeanut. If it were just “Did you hit that?” I would chalk it up to guy talk, but ew! Why does he want to know what it looks like?!
Post # 7
I myself don’t like to talk that way, but I let the boys get away with it…to a point. What does it look like? Hell no. I think I would whip my head around and ask if he noticed you sitting there, and if he did, has he suddenly confused his fiance with a long-haul trucker. If wants to marry a lady, he has to treat you like one.
So, make your complaint a little funny, maybe even enlist the sympathy of his friends (point to the one you like and ask if he thinks you are a trucker or a lady), and then let it be. A few reminders should do the trick.
Post # 8
I can understand him wanting to keep face with the guys…but all the same, he should have the balls to be polite around you too. I was thinking of something along the lines of monitajb’s solution. Humor is always good.
Post # 9
I’m sure for the most part he’s just talking like that just to talk like a guy (if that’s how guys talk) and not because he’s actually interested, but still…time and place. And definitey not in my presence! I’m good friends with the few single friends he has, heck one of them comes over to watch LOST with me while Fiance is in the bedroom on the computer! It’s just when they start bringing up the topic of girls to him and they have their guy talk in front of me that I brush it off on the surface but get bothered inside.
I have said something to him in private to which he says ‘You got mad over that? It was just guy talk’ Maybe I need to start wearing dresses and heels and all that jazz more around him to remind him that it may be guy talk…but I’m not a guy.
Post # 10
My advise is this:
I think that the fact that they say thoes things in front of you could be either
They accept you as “one of the guys” which I think is cool. (can be irritating but nice)
Or they are bothering you on purpose. If you think that is the case set some guidelines with your Fiance. One thing I’ve learned is to be gentle, guys get very protective easier than we do. In my personal experience “they” think we are trying to take their friend away.