(Closed) Am I over-reacting? …or maybe I’m just feeling emotional…

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I think it is disrespectful too! My Fiance does that, but I know he is joking, and really doesn’t want to know the details. Maybe he is joking as well?

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

woah .. they ask what it looks like?!  Um, what kind of responses do they get?!

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I’d be kinda offended too.  Can you say something to him in private?  Maybe he doesn’t realize that it does offend you, and that he thinks it’s just a joke. (Which I bet he does).   

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I agree with pumpkinlovespeanut. If it were just “Did you hit that?” I would chalk it up to guy talk, but ew! Why does he want to know what it looks like?!

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I myself don’t like to talk that way, but I let the boys get away with it…to a point. What does it look like? Hell no. I think I would whip my head around and ask if he noticed you sitting there, and if he did, has he suddenly confused his fiance with a long-haul trucker. If wants to marry a lady, he has to treat you like one.

So, make your complaint a little funny, maybe even enlist the sympathy of his friends (point to the one you like and ask if he thinks you are a trucker or a lady), and then let it be. A few reminders should do the trick.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I can understand him wanting to keep face with the guys…but all the same, he should have the balls to be polite around you too. I was thinking of something along the lines of monitajb’s solution. Humor is always good.

Post # 10
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2010

My advise is this:

I think that the fact that they say thoes things in front of you could be either

They accept you as “one of the guys” which I think is cool. (can be irritating but nice)

Or they are bothering you on purpose. If you think that is the case set some guidelines with your Fiance. One thing I’ve learned is to be gentle, guys get very protective easier than we do. In my personal experience “they” think we are trying to take their friend away.

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