(Closed) Am I over-reacting or too sensitive?

posted 4 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
46653 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

sw7577:  Is there any chance that she is out of town or on vacation? Or, do you know for sure that she is home?

Post # 3
375 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I almost never listen to my voicemail. When I see a friend has called, I think, “Oh, I should call her back when I have time,” and then call her back when I have some time to talk. 

I recommend texting her with the news directly, calling her again, or just relaxing; she will be excited for you and will talk with you eventually. 

Post # 4
1894 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

Did you call just to tell her you were engaged? Because if someone left me a voicemail to tell me that (unless they were very close to me) I’d probably give it an eye roll. 

Post # 5
2955 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I would second the PP’s who suggested that she hasnt received the message. If you two communicate regularly and you havent heard from her, maybe she didnt get the message! I’d just text her and ask if she got your message. If I received a VM from a friend that said she got engaged, I wouldnt give it an eyeroll like PP suggested, I’d be THRILLED for her and contact her right away with congrats.

Post # 6
481 posts
Helper bee

Like a PP I often don’t check my VM’s. 

Don’t let it bother you. You’ll obviously connect with her soon, and she will be stoked for you!! :}

Post # 7
1262 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

sw7577:  I bought my new phone last fall. I have voicemail, but never bothered to get the new password to set it up. So my mailbox has been full and and I haven’t bothered to fix it since September. 

I’d say email, text, etc her until you reach her. 

Post # 8
7276 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

HBanan:  +1

I never listen to my messages and I’m terrible at calling people back- I typically wait until the weekend when I know I’ll have time to chat.

Text her or try calling again!

Post # 9
2637 posts
Sugar bee

sw7577:  Honestly,

I see messages from people all the time and im like “oh COOL! ill text them back in a bit” and then i stay busy and totally forget. It isn’t that i am not excited or dont want to talk to them – im just forgetful. I also am really bad with checking Voice mails lol. Granted, an engagement is a pretty big thing to slip your mind, but who knows what she has going on?

I would shoot her a casual text like you are just catching up and see if she mentions anything – if not, she may have missed your message all together!

Post # 10
9548 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’m awful at returning calls. Don’t ras too much into this.

Post # 11
97 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I’m going through something similar with a friend, but it’s not my engagement. It’s my wedding date. I have been trying to contact her for several weeks now and no response. I got a hold of her once and she said she was sleeping, she said to call her back later, never answered when I did. I am so irritated. I was in her wedding and got her a nice gift and was extremely supportive through her entire planning and now it seems like she is avoiding me as I go through mine. Her personality tells me the reason is most likely she isn’t happy for me, because it’s always about her. I guess the only way you will know whether she is intentionally avoiding you or just busy is going to be going with your intuition. You know her and her personality, do you think it’s that she isn’t happy for you? Is she one of those friends who always find the negative in a situation and doesn’t know how to be happy for others? What was your last conversation with her like? Do you think it could be something to do with that? If not, I wouldn’t be too concerned. I would personally call a friend back right away, no matter how busy I am, but I have friends who aren’t like that and will put me on the backburner. They want me to jump for them, but when I want to tell them something or talk, they are nowhere to be found! All depends on her pattern and personality I think.

Post # 12
2787 posts
Sugar bee

Maybe your friend is unhappy or worried or overworked or having problems with her fiance.  Check that she is okay before getting angry/upset.

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