Post # 1
My longtime best friend’s wedding is coming up, shortly before my own. She is having a bachelorette party and has requested that everyone wear black dresses. I own plenty of dresses, but not one black one, and I am not really keen on running out to buy one for this. I get that it’s her occasion, but between buying the bridesmaids dress, getting it altered, the shower present, etc, I am not willing to go out and purchase a new dress just for a bachelorette party. Am I overreacting?
Post # 3
It stinks to have to go buy a new dress, but I have definately heard of people doing this (group all wearing one color, getting personalized shirts). Is really worth the drama that will come along with it, instead of going and buying a $30 dress?
Post # 4
yes you are overreacting. At the same time I think its a bit crazy to tell your bm’s what to wear to a bachelorette party. either way, a black party dress can be purchased for a very low price and can be worn again so its not really a waste of money. And since you don’t already have one its something new to add to your wardrobe. The amount of effort it is going to take to fight your friend on not wearing a black dress and the potential drama that it may cause is far more effort than going to get a black dress. Pick and choose your battles, this one just does not seem worth the effort of fighting it.
Post # 5
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
Can you borrow from another friend? Borrow from the bride/someone else going to the bachelorette?
As you can find a black dress cheaply, I’d let it slide- I get the frustration, though.
Post # 6
I’ve been to many bachelorette parties where they coordinated everyone’s outfit so that we looked like a group. I really like it, in fact. It doesn’t have to be a nice or expensive dress. Just a black dress. Or black skirt and top. Or if you’re opposed to dresses you could maybe do black pants and a black top. But I think it needs to go with everyone else. Try thrift stores or bargain stores. I guarantee you can find a cheap black dress.
Post # 7
Just borrow one if you don’t have the money, or ask if you can wear another dark color dress. I don’t think it’s a huge deal.
In all honesty, the bride probably figured that everyone would have a “little black dress”. I’ve never heard of someone not having one! I have at least…..25. But I may be a clothing hoarder. Lol!
Post # 8
I would be annoyed, but it’s not worth saying anything. There has to be someone you cann borrow a dress from if you don’t want to buy one, although I agree every girl should have a lbd
Post # 9
I’d be annoyed since I don’t like being told what I can and cannot wear but I’d probably suck it up just to keep the peace. You can buy a black dress just about anywhere. Actually, I think I remember seeing some cute ones at Target a few weeks ago. Those couldn’t have been anymore than $20 or $30.
Post # 10
Do you have a black skirt? Maybe you could pair it with a black top and make a “dress” look that would please her. It does seem unreasonable on her part to expect to be able to tell people what to wear to her bachelorette party, I would be annoyed as well. Or maybe you could borrow one from someone, if you don’t want to buy one, as other posters suggested. Good luck!
Post # 11
As PP have said, I’d rather spend the $ on a dress I might actually wear again than a personalised shirt I most definitely wont. It needn’t be expensive. Yeh it’s a bit sucky, but nothing to stress about, you’ve got plenty of else going on 🙂
Post # 12
@morkiemama: That’s what I was thinking. It’s not like she asked you all to wear silver or yellow dresses. I, too, have never heard of anybody not having a LBD.
OP, it would probably be good to have a LBD anyways. Target is a good option.
They have over 200 dresses in the “black” color online.
Post # 13
I tend to roll my eyes at matching outfits so I think your friend is being silly.
Post # 14
I’d be annoyed to have attire specified, but honestly, everyone should own a cute little black dress – so use this as your excuse to go buy a new one!
Post # 15
You should wear a black dress. Like others have said, you can go to target or any of those cheap-o forever 21 type of stores in any mall and get one. It may come in handy in the future anyway.
Post # 16
Generally, it is kind of rude to tell adult people how to dress themselves. However, Abbie is right- pretty much everyone should have a LBD which is probably why this friend suggested that… so nobody would have to run out and buy a specific, one-time-use-only outfit.
You have some options: you can decline the invitation, you can go out and buy a dress, you can find a deeply discounted dress on a sale rack, consignment shop, goodwill, or discount retailer (tj maxx, ross, marshall), or you can borrow a dress from a friend.