(Closed) Am I Overreacting?

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
3773 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 1999

It stinks to have to go buy a new dress, but I have definately heard of people doing this (group all wearing one color, getting personalized shirts). Is really worth the drama that will come along with it, instead of going and buying a $30 dress?

Post # 4
6019 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2017

yes you are overreacting. At the same time I think its a bit crazy to tell your bm’s what to wear to a bachelorette party. either way, a black party dress can be purchased for a very low price and can be worn again so its not really a waste of money. And since you don’t already have one its something new to add to your wardrobe. The amount of effort it is going to take to fight your friend on not wearing a black dress and the potential drama that it may cause is far more effort than going to get a black dress. Pick and choose your battles, this one just does not seem worth the effort of fighting it.

Post # 5
4193 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

Can you borrow from another friend? Borrow from the bride/someone else going to the bachelorette? 

As you can find a black dress cheaply, I’d let it slide- I get the frustration, though.

Post # 6
9550 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’ve been to many bachelorette parties where they coordinated everyone’s outfit so that we looked like a group. I really like it, in fact. It doesn’t have to be a nice or expensive dress. Just a black dress. Or black skirt and top. Or if you’re opposed to dresses you could maybe do black pants and a black top. But I think it needs to go with everyone else. Try thrift stores or bargain stores. I guarantee you can find a cheap black dress.

Post # 7
1934 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Just borrow one if you don’t have the money, or ask if you can wear another dark color dress.  I don’t think it’s a huge deal.

In all honesty, the bride probably figured that everyone would have a “little black dress”.  I’ve never heard of someone not having one!  I have at least…..25.  But I may be a clothing hoarder.  Lol!

Post # 8
2695 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2008

I would be annoyed, but it’s not worth saying anything. There has to be someone you cann borrow a dress from if you don’t want to buy one, although I agree every girl should have a lbd

Post # 9
10288 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’d be annoyed since I don’t like being told what I can and cannot wear but I’d probably suck it up just to keep the peace. You can buy a black dress just about anywhere. Actually, I think I remember seeing some cute ones at Target a few weeks ago. Those couldn’t have been anymore than $20 or $30. 

Post # 10
9686 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

Do you have a black skirt?  Maybe you could pair it with a black top and make a “dress” look that would please her.  It does seem unreasonable on her part to expect to be able to tell people what to wear to her bachelorette party, I would be annoyed as well.  Or maybe you could borrow one from someone, if you don’t want to buy one, as other posters suggested.  Good luck! 

Post # 11
4124 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

As PP have said, I’d rather spend the $ on a dress I might actually wear again than a personalised shirt I most definitely wont.  It needn’t be expensive.  Yeh it’s a bit sucky, but nothing to stress about, you’ve got plenty of else going on 🙂

Post # 12
1830 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

@morkiemama:  That’s what I was thinking. It’s not like she asked you all to wear silver or yellow dresses. I, too, have never heard of anybody not having a LBD.

OP, it would probably be good to have a LBD anyways. Target is a good option.


They have over 200 dresses in the “black” color online.

Post # 13
1304 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I tend to roll my eyes at matching outfits so I think your friend is being silly.

Post # 14
13010 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’d be annoyed to have attire specified, but honestly, everyone should own a cute little black dress – so use this as your excuse to go buy a new one!

Post # 15
501 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

You should wear a black dress. Like others have said, you can go to target or any of those cheap-o forever 21 type of stores in any mall and get one. It may come in handy in the future anyway.

Post # 16
5475 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Generally, it is kind of rude to tell adult people how to dress themselves.  However, Abbie is right- pretty much everyone should have a LBD which is probably why this friend suggested that… so nobody would have to run out and buy a specific, one-time-use-only outfit.

You have some options:  you can decline the invitation, you can go out and buy a dress, you can find a deeply discounted dress on a sale rack, consignment shop, goodwill, or discount retailer (tj maxx, ross, marshall), or you can borrow a dress from a friend.

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