(Closed) Am I overreacting?

posted 6 years ago in TTC
Post # 3
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4284 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@ElbieKay:  I am not sure how long you have been TTC or what your story it, but this is going to happen a lot. The longer you try the more difficult it will become. I have been trying to remind myself that everyone means well (whether they do or not) and I try to respond with “we have decided to keep these things between the two of us”, “we’ll be sure to announce any news when the time comes”. Other times if I have a bad TTC day, my response is something like “Actually we are having fertility issues, so no it might not just happen if we stop thinking about it”. Sorry you even have to think about these things! FX for you!

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@ElbieKay:  Ughhh, unfortunately I agree with @RoyalLime:.  If I could do one thing over it would be to NOT tell anyone that we were starting to TTC.  People (especially those who have never had an issues/difficulty getting pregnant) don’t understand that it’s not a topic that we always want to discuss.  I’d say that your cousin’s Girlfriend was trying to be nice/involved and doesn’t know that it can be intrusive to want specific info.  Crazy, I know =)

Post # 6
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4582 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I would be annoyed… that’s why we didn’t tell anyone about our plans to TTC.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

This is why I’ll be keeping it between me and my husband if we ever TTC.  If you put it out there that you’re trying, you’ve opened that door and people are going to think it’s fair game to ask you about it.

Post # 8
Hostess
8145 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

i don’t think i would tell anyone… there’s so much pressure after that. Or i’d be VERY picky who i choose. Also, i’m sure she just wants to be the 1st to know when you get your BFP ๐Ÿ˜‰

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@ElbieKay:  I totally agree with lindsey_k_16 and MRSLMA.  It’s frustrating because Darling Husband told his little brother before our wedding that we wanted kids right away, not really thinking that his 10 year old brother would tell his whole family that and then they would ask me every month if I’m pg.  I wish we’d never told anyone our plans to TTC.  Now, I feel like I have to explain myself and come up with an excuse every month (timing was bad, he was out of town, etc.), when that’s ridiculous – I don’t need to explain anything to anyone.  I feel like if I don’t, though, then they’re all wondering behind my back what’s wrong with me.  Anyway, sorry for going off on a tangent with a personal vent.  I wish I had good advice for how to handle those questions.  If you come up with a good response, please pass it on. ๐Ÿ˜‰

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

All.The.Freaking.Time. Oh my goodness, it drives me insane. My response has become ‘we will have one when God blesses us with one’ and they shut up. Obviously if you don’t believe in God it doesnt work but I always have to laugh when people get that response from me. What could they say back to that? Nothing!

Sorry, been ttc for 1+ years and i’m over the whole thing. I’m ready to get pregant! agh!

Post # 11
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525 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Ugh, people stink.  I am BAFFLED that anyone under 60 would ever ask about this (60 seems to be the I’m allowed to be unhinged age haha).  I feel like everyone knows someone who has struggled with TTC, or miscarried – why would you ever ask?  Not only is it none of your business, but you’re potentially setting yourself up for an unbelievable awkward conversation. 

Post # 12
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3755 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

My Fiance can’t keep his mouth shut! We said early on that we wouldn’t tell anyone. Then friends come over and a few drinks later he hollars it from the rooftops. Unfortunately, if people know, the questions are unavoidable but @RoyalLime:‘s post really is great advice. 

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@ElbieKay:  I’m sorry you are having to deal with that – I feel like once you let people knwo you are trying (or even thinking about trying) they feel like it is okay to make casual conversation about it – I honestly think it is because (most people) they are interested in your life.

When we started trying we didn’t tell anyone – not even my mom officially – which was really hard, but I just didn’t want all the questions and all the pressure – especially since it’s Destination Wedding and I, we were immediately going to IUI and I was worried about how crazy long it would take.

 

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@jny1179:  Thanks ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 15
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920 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Ugh! People are really insensitive.  We told people we were going to start trying in May but then we decided to wait until August.  In the middle of that time period we were SO annoyed with the questions that we then changed our story and told people we decided we weren’t ready and were going to wait a year.  We started trying and conceived but stuck with that story until we announced we were pregnant.

 

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