- 9 years ago
- Wedding: April 2012
Ok, so let me preface this by saying: I work at an spca, I am very much against abuse, and I have strong feelings about “spaking” an animal (and children), I am very much against it, unles warranted by VERY out of line behavior (biting someone or something of that nature), I was never spanked as a child, it was never needed. Well, my boyfriend has a very different view, his father would spank him if he did something bad, he says he learned, and a dog is no different.
Well, my dog is deaf and still pretty young (8 months) He knows some sign language for sit, come on, quiet, down, roll over, and NO. Well he’s an active dog who lately hasn’t gotten enough exercise so he’s been acting out by not coming inside after he goes potty. Which wouldn’t be a problem if he didn’t dig.
Well, last night my boyfriend was taking out the trash and the dog was running around in the backyard and he wanted him to come inside and got really angry when he wouldn’t. He chased after him a little (which then he thinks its a game) so he kept running from him. He called me out there to get him inside, I’m outside TWO SECONDS and my boyfriend gets pissed that he’s not listening and grabs the skimmer for the pool and chases it with him, knocked him with it (enough to make him yelp, but it wasn’t overly excessive in his defense) and then chased him into the house. NOT HOW I WOULD HAVE HANDLED IT! I was livid…
I was practically in tears and he thinks i’m overreacting… But see, he always insists that he’s it’s MY dog and that I should train him, feed him, walk him, take him out… Which to a degree I’m fine with. But if he’s my dog, shouldn’t he “punish” him the way I would. I mean, if it was my kid and I didn’t believe in spankings and he spanked my KID?!
Am I overreacting? I stayed mad for a while, all I want is an apology, I said this to him and he goes off on how He was just disciplining him and the dog is fine, he’s not apologising. So I got mad all over again and he stayed in the bedroom all night, so when it came time for bed I slept on the couch.
I’m still mad and he’s not going to apologize. Should I just get over it? Am I overreacting?