(Closed) Am I overreacting?

posted 5 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

She was probably just excited and wanted all sorts of good news at once. In the grand scheme of things, this won’t matter.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Why are pregnancy announcements a “thing” now? Seriously.  Can’t family just be happy for each other? 

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

@RunningGal:  I get where you’re coming from… you were so excited to share your news, and it wasn’t what you imagined it would be. No, it won’t matter in the long run, but I would probably be sulking a bit if I were you. Try not to think about it anymore… everyone is excited for you, and you’re having a baby! This is just one of those things you’ll have to let go; it’s not worth dwelling on.

Post # 6
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I totally see how you feel here! Someone else just got handed the opportunity to steal your thunder. There’s not much you can do or say now out of not causing any dramas, but I’d make your baby shower and everything tonnes better!

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I think you’re overreacting. It wasn’t malicious; things just didn’t go the way you wanted them to.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

@SnurfMurph86:  Because it’s a really big deal for most people to share with their loved ones that they are pregnant. Why not have a little fun with it??

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I completely understand. This is your first child and wanted the announcement to be exciting and joyful, and what you got were hand me down excitment . I beleive it to be a tad bit rude on the Mother-In-Law part just because she knew what ya’ll were about to announce, but let her daughter (steal ya’lls thunder) so to speak and it was her 2nd child. My feelings would be disappointed,and upset. Hopefully when it comes to the baby shower, and other things that go along with having your first baby, you will be able to have the moments you were hoping for and have them seperate from the sister. 

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@PermaStudent:  Because fun turns into anger about announcement thunder being stolen far too often.

Post # 11
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

Based on what you have said, I am assuming your Mother-In-Law didn’t know your SIL’s pregnancy news, she probably asked you to wait until she was on Skype so you could tell everyone at once, which is why you drove all that way, to tell everyone at one place at one time. That’s what I would think.

But if she did know, she maybe thought it would be doubly exciting.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I would definitely be hurt too!

That being said, there is nothing you can really do about it now.  So allow yourself a week or so to be upset as you want, and then get over it & move on.  Holding a grudge isn’t going to do you any good in this situation!

Post # 13
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Blushing bee

I think she either didn’t know about SIL’s pregnancy or if she did, she was extremely excited about both of you. I mean these babies will be cousins and born around the same time, you guys are suddenly going to be parents and aunts/uncles, and she will be a grandma X 2! I think that’s cause for rejoicing and there were no ill intentions.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

@SnurfMurph86:  Well, you have to announce it somehow! Feelings can get hurt whether you plan something fun or just walk up and blurt it out. I do agree though that people should learn to be happy for each other no matter how it comes out, but it doesn’t always work out that way.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would be dissapointed as well, but not in Mother-In-Law. Just that it didnt go the way you expected it.

 

Assumign she knew about the other pregnancy, she probably thought the more the better!

 

The fact that they didnt seem as excited is likely for two reasons, 

 

1) they were that excited but you were already upset and may have been reading the situation wrong

 

2) You were already dissapointed so your own feelings were leaking through and people were picking up on your deflation. Often our own feelings/body language is a self fullfilling prophecy because people react to it. 

 

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