Post # 226
I am SO SO sorry. I’m a therapist and it breaks my heart every time I hear a story like this. My advice to everyone is listen to your gut at all times. If you have a feeling telling you something is not right, believe yourself. In healthy relationships, SO’s never give each other a reason to doubt the other. It took me years to realize this- as my first husband cheated on me and I refused to believe it. By saying that your jealousy is a “turn off” is simply putting a seed of insecurity in you- which is no way to start a marriage.
Know that you are stronger than you think you are and that you deserve answers to all of your questions. I would take a few days to get yourself together and formulate a plan to calmly address this with him. Good luck to you- this was the hardest thing I had to go through- but once you find out the truth, regardless of what it is, know that it’s 100% for the best.
Post # 227
You absolutely did not cause this…
When my ex broke up with me I convinced myself that it was because of me, because I was moody/annoying/anxious/complained too much..etc etc etc.
And now I’m married, and guess what? I’m still sometimes moody, I can still be annoying, I still get anxious, I still complain.. and my husband loves me anyway. Just as I love him in spite of his faults. I’m sure you’re not perfect, you’re human just like any one of us, but he is certainly far far less than perfect as well (clearly), and there is no way that you deserved to be treated like this.
Post # 228
*hugs* lovely girl xxx
You are doing the right thing. I really want to say how much of a jerk he is, but he is no longer any more than a closed chapter in your life.
Get S and his girlfriend over and pack his things in boxes. Have the locks changed and have yourself tested for STDs. You need to look after yourself! The quicker you get his stuff packed and out the quicker you can get on with the rest of your life. Just like a bandaid! I won’t lie – you have a long road ahead of you, but please know you deserve someone who will not treat you this way, and this douche and slut Cindy deserve each other. And i also agree about not contacting their work to reveal the relationship – dont stoop to their level. Hold your head high and show that you have a crapload more class and dignity than that pair.
Would love to be a fly on the wall when he gets back to your house and his shit is all over the lawn. Make sure you aren’t home when he gets there (or have someone with you).
thinking of you! X
Post # 229
My heart hurts for you OP and I’m so sorry you are going through this. I saw your initial post and hoped it would all turn out to be a silly misunderstanding but I see not that this is not the case. Sending positive thoughts your way!
Post # 230
I am sooooooooooo sorry to hear about all of this OP.
Just know that you are the prize and it’s his loss.
It’s gonna hurt like hell for some time…but one day it won’t…and things will get better.