(Closed) Am i overreacting?

posted 4 years ago in Dress
Post # 2
1264 posts
Bumble bee

I can understand being disappointed he doesn’t recall a detail that was clearly important to you but I think being super hurt by it might be a bit much. In the grand scheme of things this is minor. Please enjoy your honeymoon and let this one slide.

Post # 3
1494 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

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velvetsea :  You are way overreacting…you have to realize it was also an emotional day for him as well, and yes, he would have been mostly seeing you from the front, during the ceremony you walked facing him right? When you were dancing you were facing him… it’s the guests that would’ve seen all of the details. Give him a break and enjoy your honeymoon!

Post # 4
1110 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Yes, you’re overreacting.

Relax, girl.  It’s a dress.  It’s your marriage that matters.

Post # 5
47439 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

You were definitely overreacting. Time to move on.

Post # 6
9520 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

Yes. Enjoy your honeymoon! You can’t change what he saw with the dress so take a step back and enjoy the moment. Next you will be home upset you fought on the honeymoon 

Post # 7
6944 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

Yes, you’re overreacting. Is he happy to be married to you? Are you having a lovely honeymoon? Are you excited about sharing your lives together? Focus on those things. That’s what matters.

Honestly, if I asked my husband to describe my wedding dress at all he’d probably just say he remembers I looked beautiful and maybe it had a few sparkles. And that’s great! What he remembers is how wonderful that day was and how radiant and beautiful I looked. I couldn’t care less if he remembers any specifics about my actual dress. It’s not important. 

Post # 8
505 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

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prinzesschen :  I agree with you!!


Give the poor man a break! He’s a guy! They don’t notice as much of these things as us. Did you have a great wedding? Are you married to the love of your life? Are you on your honey moon? If you have answered yes to those questions then let it go!! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 9
9841 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Yes you’re overreacting.

Post # 10
304 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

If your fiance is anything like mine, I’m sure he was noticing how beautiful you looked in your dress, rather than the details of the dress itself. That’s the important thing. Many dudes (and ladies as well, don’t want to stereotype here) just don’t care that much about fashion and wouldn’t notice details of dresses. Even if it’s obvious to you. Weddings can also be an emotional, happy, crazy blur of a day. I’d give him a break. If he recognizes how beautiful you looked on your special day, and you guys are happy, that’s what matters ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 11
3898 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

Ummm most guys don’t notice such details but usually the whole look. The important thing is he though you looked beautiful and he did marry you! ๐Ÿ™‚  He did see you mostly from the front or the side I’m assuming so there’s that. Just let it go and enjoy your honemoon! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 12
34 posts

Gosh, can’t he see that the whole wedding was POINTLESS if he didn’t notice the BACK OF YOUR DRESS????? Why even get married???? I have never heard of anything so DEVASTATING. 

My advice is, you’d better stay mad at him as long as possible. What’s a honeymoon without some good brooding and guilt tripping? Especially when it’s something he can’t do anything about.

It sounds like you handle imperfections in a very healthy way. Keep it up.  

Post # 13
555 posts
Busy bee

If the back was the main reason for getting that dress why didn’t you point it out to him during the night? I mean, I would probably be a little upset like you too, but I am also the first one to tell my husband: look THAT is the best part about this dress. 

Post # 14
1094 posts
Bumble bee


You might be overreacting a bit… 
This was his wedding day too, so he probably had so much going on in his head. Pictures to take, people to talk to, speeches, it can be very overwhelming and for the most part you snap your fingers and it’s done.

Don’t think too hard on it.

Show him a pic when they come in

Post # 15
510 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

Seriously?! It’s a dress…you probably have more important things to concern yourself with.  Besides, guys very rarely notice the details. He showed up. He wasn’t drunk off his a**.  He loved you for you.  What more do you need? Honey, seriously, you probably could have shown up in front of him in a brown paper bag and he still wouldn’t have notice because he loves you and he got to marry you.

Stop frettin’ over something so petty and enjoy your new lives together.

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