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posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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2063 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Let me say upfront that this is not going to be what you want to hear.

However, she will be in your life forever if you marry Fiance. If Fiance is unwilling to stand up to her, you will have to deal with her influence forever. So, the way I see it is you have two real options (aside from exiting the relationship).

1. Stand up for yourself and deal with the fallout.

2. Have Fiance stand up for you, as a couple, and deal with the fallout.

Number 2 is, by far, the better option because, if you two can agree on a plan of action together, the fallout will be much easier to deal with. 

Post # 5
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1813 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

@aliavenue:  This!  Sounds like your Future Mother-In-Law is over-cntrolling and your Fiance is her doormat.  If she has so much control over your relationship now my dear, it’s just going to become a hell of a lot worse once you have that ring on your finger.

 

Post # 7
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2063 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@LittleMissStress:  He promised me he is going to financially cut her off after the wedding. 

Why can’t he do that now?

Post # 8
Member
1902 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I’m in a similar position with my future-in-laws, though my fiance sounds a little more supportive than yours does – at least mine agrees that they’re out of line, even if he’s not sure what to do about it! I think you need to have a serious discussion with your fiance about where your relationship is going – if his mother is this overbearing before you’re married, what will it be like when you have children?! It’s not worth the hassle in the long run if you’re always going to be supporting and trying to please her.

Good luck, I hope it all works out for you 🙂

Post # 9
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2053 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@LittleMissStress: Sorry to say it but not only would I be pissed but yes, I would exit the relationship. If everywhere you turn you are up against a wall, trying to stand up for yourself but he is a “mama’s boy” as you put it, your only other choice is to stay and that doesn’t seem too pleasant for you. You also have to ask yourself what you are gaining from this relationship. Not to say that is what it all boils down to, but that things seem severely unbalanced. If in your mind you “gave up school, jobs, promotions for the wedding. Just not fair.” you need to ask yourself what would be fair, and then find it. Good luck to you.

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