(Closed) Am I Overreacting? Friendship Woes.

posted 4 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Yeah… I’d be pissed. I’m not sure if it’s friendship ending though.  I think deep down she knows she is wrong and a hypocrite. 

Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - City, State

I’d be done with her. She nagged, harassed and bugged you to not bring your boyfriend. Talked about how it was too soon for you two to take a trip like that, that he didn’t deserve to go cause he didn’t know the couple, and then she pulls that? No. Done. No room in my life for people that selfish and inconsiderate. Obliterated your plans for her own benefit, and then left you high and dry, again for her own benefit. There’s no reason to keep people like that around.

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper

Is she 15? Good lord, I’m sorry OP. I would just accept the price difference in the single room and put a lot of distance in that friendship. She doesn’t sound worth having that much drama. She sounds very self centered. If the boyfriend suddenly can’t make it for whatever reason, its only been 2 months, don’t change your plans. Stick with the single room and let her figure it out like an adult.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015 - Haddonfield, NJ

I wouldn’t say you end the friendship. I think your friend wanted you to be by her side, then started dating someone and realized your original side! Haha. She was like “Whoa, going with my boyfriend would be super romantic and awesome!” and wasn’t as loyal as you were to her. She was a little naggy (but, which of us haven’t been the annoying friend at least once or twice?) and she definitely did wrong. And I’d be really annoyed. But she’s probably still a decent friend, right?

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2016 - Cellar 222

That’s so childish of her. Is this a pattern…she sounds too self-absorbed for this to be a one-time jerkish mistake on her part.

Make sure you collect that money from her. After that, she’s on probation. If she does anything like this again it’s time to kick her to the curb.

Post # 7
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4241 posts
Honey bee

 

I would be SO PISSED. It’s one thing if you originally planned to travel together and she then nicely informed you she wanted to bring her new boyfriend…but to nag and guilt you until you give in to what she wants only for her to drop you the minute she has a date to bring AND give a half ass apology? HELL NO.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I think anyone would be pissed, in your position. She totally did you wrong. It is up to you whether or not to stay friends but she owes you a major apology at the very least, that is for sure.

Post # 9
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1356 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2017 - Seattle, WA

I’d cut her out of my life after that wedding.  This is inexcusable behavior!!

Post # 10
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927 posts
Busy bee

 

Yep, I would be so pissed and done with that friendship too.

If I was really spoiling for a fight, I’d forward all her original texts back to her about how much it will suck to be the only single person there and how it’s too soon in a relationship. 

Post # 11
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425 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

I would be done with that friendship. I have no room for selfish people like that in my life…

It would be totally different if she hadnt nagged you into not bringing your bf. I’m so sorry you have to deal with this!

Post # 12
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272 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Uh wtf. I’d be pissed also. Don’t let this ruin your trip!!

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I dont feel like you’re overreacting… she has double standards. 

Post # 15
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Busy bee

daynak: If she tries to reach out to me I will hear her out but I think I need to start being a little more selfish with her  <-  good approach

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