Post # 17
I would find Aspacia on the board and ask her opinion. She has a very particular stance about how a hostess is to always provide the seating arrangement so folks don’t know each other. If it were ME, I would probably call her and say ‘hi, I got your request but since you already know each other, I thought that since I was hosting that I would do you the favor of meeting someone that you didn’t know. It makes it more fun.’
I think that of any of the seating arrangements that you get to keep, this would be the one. Do what you want, honey.
Post # 18
Um, are the groomsman not sitting with their dates? Personally, I find that arrangement obnoxious…I don’t care if my Fiance is in a wedding or not, we should be seated together. Period.
Post # 19
@Miss Orchard: You know, my best friend is doing a head table and even though I too am I bride, I am having a really hard time with that. But I am the only one with the issue. MEH.
Post # 20
@Miss Orchard: Ack, I hate being the date of a bridal party member. That being said I went to a wedding recently where there was a head table (and a whole host of other bridal party “things” that meant that I literally did not see Fiance more than 15 minutes during the entire evening), and I sat with the other “dates” and had THE BEST TIME EVER. (A way better time than Fiance and the other bridal party members who felt like slaves. haha)
Post # 21
@gruyere: I understand you upset – I would be furious. Our table plan will only be seen as people go into the room to eat and I will have no one switching and I don’t care if it makes me a bridezilla – If I see anyone has switched before the meal I will tell them to go back to their original seat!! After the meal they can move around all they like.
The way I see it is you can’t really allow one guest to change her place because then you are at risk of inviting an avalanche of similar requests, especially if she tells people that she got to choose what table she sat at. Soon you could get “…but she chose so why can’t I sit with so and so” Many people don’t care (I love meeting people so the meal is always a great place to meet people. Some you wish you never set eyes on and others become friends) But for others who find out a switch was made for her won’t understand why you aren’t doing it for everyone. Especially as her request is just because she wants to sit with a certain couple. Now if her request was due to her needing to be in a certain place, close to toilets, exit, wheelchair access etc that would be different….if it was a request to solve a problem I have no doubt you would accomodate her totally – But just because she wants to sit by someone she knows? For me that would be a no.