(Closed) Am I overreacting or did we meet a wierdo vendor?

posted 8 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
4485 posts
Honey bee

You are not overreacting. That is very unprofessional and strange on his part.

Post # 4
8353 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

I have never had an experience like this, but as a vendor myself, I would never ask for a sample back. Once the customer/client has the sample in their possession, it is theirs to keep. It doesn’t matter if the customer/client goes with another vendor or the vendor that they received the sample(s) from. I would just not respond to this vendor and keep the sample, unless you signed something or stated something in an email or in person that states that you have to give the sample back. I think this person needs to take some business classes and/or get out of whatever business they are in.

Post # 5
563 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I had a potential videographer send me a demo tape (which was awful) and request that it be sent back.  My husband and I were concerned, since we can both easily copy DVDs, and we assumed a professional videographer could easily do the same.  Even before we saw the video we were quite reluctant to hire this professional, and the video quality confirmed that decision.  It is a really poor idea to send out your only copy of a sample, since some brides will just ignore all communication requesting its return, and others will take awhile to send it back, and he has no control over whether or not he ever receives it (my husband, who is much nicer than me sent the tape back immediately.  It would have taken me weeks to do the same – assuming I didn’t lose it).  I wouldn’t necessarily have a discussion with him about his behavior since you have already decided not to use his services, and your goal at this point should be to minimize all contact with him in the future.  A professional wouldn’t have put you in this position, and someone with a normal ego would understand that vendors can’t be the right fit for all brides.   Since he didn’t take being not hired well, he is unlikely to take business advice well.  If he behaves unprofessionally, other brides will refuse to use his services (unless he is much cheaper than the competition) and he will either learn his lesson or go bankrupt.   

Post # 6
26 posts
  • Wedding: October 2010

Mail it back…and then send an e-mail requesting he return your envelope and stamp (because they are you only ones, of course). πŸ˜€

Post # 7
413 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@railroad-HILARIOUS! I was thinking the same thing!

I say ignore him as long as you didnt sign a contract or admit in an email that you would that who cant hold you responsible. I think its outrageous that he would even ask for a sample back! Obviously he has way too much time on his hands. πŸ™‚

Post # 8
2000 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

That’s definitely strange. @Railroad: Haha, that’s hilarious!

I would just leave him alone. You have no ties to him at all & if he wants to run a successful business, he needs to learn to have MORE copies than just one! Goodness, so glad you decided not to go with him!

Post # 9
6661 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

That is strange. I would send it back just for good karma but be totally weirded out.

Post # 11
463 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

ms.puppyjacks, i totally agree with your costco analogy! hahaha

can you imagine if that videographer is a your potential baker?!  “I’m sorry but we have decided to go with another bakery.”

“Ms.puppyjacks, if you could just puke the three flavors of cake you just tasted in that red bucket in the corner.”

Horrible.  Glad you didn’t go with him!


Post # 12
4567 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

… yeah, that’s strange. They must not get a whole lot of work to only have 1 sample. Hmmm, good thing you didn’t choose them!

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