- 6 years ago
- Wedding: October 2012
First off, let me say, I am a long time lurker on this board, but almost never post. I need to get this off my chest. To vent and to get the opinions of other bees going through the wedding planning process. I hope this doesn’t get too long and you all hang in there with me!
A little back story. My Fiance got laid off November of last year (Boo airline industry!), (after we already had wedding date and venue secured with a down payment!). He had been frantically searching for a job ever since, however, the job market, as you all are aware – not so good. Well, he finally found a decent job after literally 100s of applications. This was in July.
Prior to finding this new job, his best men (he has two…all 3 of them very good friends for the past 15 years) decided they would go to Las Vegas for my FI’s bachelor party. My Fiance agreed, under the circumstances that he would still be unemployed (which secretly he was hoping he wouldn’t be!) as he was not going to ask his new employer for almost a week off for a bachelor party, a few days off for the wedding, and a week off for the honeymoon right off the bat. Any responsible person who has been searching for a job for months would agree that this is the appropriate thing to do.
One of my FI’s friends is a doctor, and his requirement was that they plan it around a conference in Las Vegas or he wouldn’t be able to go. Well guess what? The conference is the week before the wedding! His best men tentatively planned a bachelor party in Vegas, returning home the day before the rehearsal. Being a past airline employee myself, I wasn’t totally comfortable with this (anything could go wrong and delay them getting back!) but I let it go, and agreed it was ok.
My Fiance gets this new job. He’s ecstatic! He tells his best men, and they are pissed! They said they can’t believe he won’t ask off of work. Mind you, NOTHING is booked at this point. Not a hotel room, not a plane ticket — nothing. It went as far as his friends requesting off work. They proceed to tell them that they can’t believe he’s not going when they’re “bending over backwards” for him. They told him, “I guess you’re not getting a bachelor party then.” I’m not making this up. They ACTUALLY said that. Fiance…SUPER disappointed…says OK…and that’s that. Right?
Well, It’s been over a month now since either best man has talked to him. They are going through with the Vegas trip (without my FI). He said that was fine. He understands (I don’t think its right, but not my place to say anything of course). They still haven’t gotten fitted for their tuxes..the only guys out of all 5 groomsmen and 2 ushers (Did I mention the wedding is less than 5 weeks away?)
The thing that pushed me over the edge is that there is an issue with our venue and our rehearsal needs to be moved from Friday evening to Friday morning or Thursday evening. I sent one of the best men a message asking which works best for him. His reponse? “Well, Im not sure what time we’ll be back from Vegas on Thursday and Friday I have class in the morning”. I’m sorry. WHAT!? You haven’t booked your Vegas ticket yet, and you don’t have the respect to book a ticket returning home in the morning!? I mean, come on.
At this point, my Fiance is so frustrated, he just wants to know if they are still in the wedding because if not, he needs to find 2 more groomsmen.
I feel so angry at them. So disappointed for my Fiance. And I cannot believe how CHILDISH these two “men” are acting. They are 28 years old. Not 16. I just want to scream!!! OK If anyone is still reading, thank you for your time. What would you do in this situation??