Am I overreacting to my husband going to a strip club?

posted 2 weeks ago in Married Life
Post # 31
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Idk. My now-husband discussed that our relationship would be a no-cheat relationship when we first started dating many years ago. By some Bee’s logic, if I don’t constantly remind him not to cheat, he can’t be expected to remember. Gosh. Poor little lamb.

Post # 32
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Newbee

You are not overreacting at all, and if I were you, I would talk to him about asap. The longer you bottle up your emotions, the worse it’s going to get (trust me, I’m the worst at this). The sooner you talk to him about it, the better. 

Post # 33
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

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Post # 35
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Blushing bee

jannigirl :  well taking this analogy to its conclusion… it’s like her husband cheated once at his bachelor party and she said nothing…. so now she’s surprised when he did it again? 

Post # 36
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Bumble bee

diana148 :  

Exactly, completely flawed logic. It’s universally understood that unless you agree to do otherwise when you’re in a committed relationship you don’t have sex with other people, not at all the same for going to strip clubs, from anecdotal experience the majority of women don’t care if it’s a one off for a bachelor party. Also, how many women have been to ladies nights with male strippers? I know plenty, are they all cheaters who have no respect for men as well? It goes both ways. 

Post # 37
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

diana148 :  I didn’t read any surprise, but rather hurt, disappointment and frustration. People don’t get free passes on bad behavior just because someone else didn’t get upset ENOUGH at the behavior. Dude needs to hold himself accountable for keeping his word.

Post # 38
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2029

pinkflamingos :  Me neither!  You couldn’t force me at gunpoint to do things that I am against or that would hurt my partner.  He is a grown man, no means NO, he can leave on his own accord.

Post # 39
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2029

He promised me after hearing how I feel about strip clubs that he wouldn’t go to one again. I really appreciated him taking how I feel seriously.

Twizbe :  They talked about boundaries, he broke them…

Post # 40
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

You are not overreacting. Strip clubs are a deal breaker for me, I couldn’t be with someone that goes to them. Strip clubs are a hard no in my marriage. If they are a hard no for you, then your husband should respect that. I would discuss your boundries again and how this makes you feel.  Honestly though… the private room thing concerns me…. him saying she smelt like noodles… well what would have happened if she smelt amazing…

Post # 41
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

alicia95bride :  I agree with  missyjz ! I think that you should talk to your husband and explain to him that him going there hurt you because of previous conversations that you have had. Then from there see how he responds.  I’m sure he will hear you out and probably not even realize how badly he had made you feel. I completely understand why you feel the way that you do though and you have a right to be mad, but I would just communicate with him first! 

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