(Closed) Am I overreacting? (vent)

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

i definitely don’t think you are overreacting; they are clearly offering more support to your FI’s brother and his wife… and at the same time maybe they aren’t aware that their help is being taken advantage of…

i know it’s a hard situation to be in; esp when you’re working so hard to do everything, but remember that they’re not in a place to help you out of want or obligation and don’t compare yourselves to the help that your Future Brother-In-Law and his wife are  getting from your Future Father-In-Law.

it sounds like you’ve got a good plan going, so don’t let others (lack of) help dampen your strides!

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

i don’t think you’re overreacting at all. you’re working hard to make ends meet (and doing a really good job of it), while they are taking it easy and letting their parents pick up the slack. on the other hand, i don’t think there’s not much you can do about it. maybe your Fiance could say something discreetly, but this kind of thing tends to start off world war III in families, and that might not be the way you want to start things off with your new ILs.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I agree that can be totally infuriating.  Unfortunately, there’s not a damn thing you can do about it.  While you’re justified in being frustrated with how your BIL and his wife are taking advantage of your ILs, it’s really their business.  I feel for you, though.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

i get it, sometimes you just have to get it out. the good thing is that you realize what they’re doing is totally irresponsible, and you’re working hard to make sure you’re never in their situation. that’s the best thing you can do! good luck with the job search, it can be so frustrating but one of these days a job will come through!

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