Post # 1
I got engaged on Christmas morning and my Fiance and I have talked, yesterday night, about what we want. He basically said it was my day and he has a few things he wouldn’t mind seeing, but really he is okay with anything (and clarified he CARES, but he wants this to be my day and knows we have very similar styles and tastes and that I am OCD when it comes to planning anything so it will be amazing). I told him I want him to approve what I have chosen and for him to give imput and asked if I could start going ahead and he said sure. The wedding will be end of July, weekday (he really, really wants to get married on a Tuesday for some reason and I don’t care as it will be a small family-only wedding with more than half the people being retired, students or work at schools so have summers off) and I feel the need to get going!
So today (see 2 days after engagement) I emailed a few venues and contacted a photographer whose work I have followed for awhile and now my Fiance is saying it is too soon to do all of these things! All I can think is that our wedding is in 7 months and if we don’t book a venue and photographer soon, those we love will be taken or too busy!
Am I crazy?
Post # 3
No way! I think it’s good to get as much done in advance as possible.
Post # 4
Oh geez, you are not crazy, you are hitting crunch time soon! Clearly your Fiance is not wedding planning expert. Plan away!
Post # 5
I say looking for a venue right away is a great idea, but I would wait on the dress. I went out to buy one 3 weeks after getting engaged and 3 months later had major dress regret. Spend some time to really figure out what you want your wedding to look like and do lots of research. Now, if you’re one who’s know exactly the details you’ve wanted since you were a little girl, then go for it.!
Post # 6
Absolutely not–you are perfectly right to be contacting venues.
Post # 7
I would actually say you better start planning heavily now, especially for venue and photographer. Most of the places where I live book a year in advance.
Post # 8
@ItsPronounced_ABear: I think I might go the Dressilyme way for a dress, so I am not worried yet! I also have read that it is hard to adjust sizing and I have been steadily losing weight for a bit so I don’t want to order too soon. Thanks for the heads up though!
@soonerbride: I am assuming the same thing is standard here! I know a venue on a Tueday wouldn’t be as much of an issue, but photographers generally only take a set amount of clients month/season to ensure they can devote time to editing, etc.
Thanks everyone for the reassurance! I second guessed whether or not I was jumping the gun and worried myself haha!
Post # 9
- Wedding: August 2012 - Historic Lougheed House
You’re not too early. I’m getting married in August 2012 and I just barely was able to book my venue and photographer 15 months out… like I had to fight for the date with other couples.
You’re not too early at all. I would get on it ASAP!
Post # 10
Nope, not too soon at all! My Fiance and I knew we would be engaged for two years before we got married. We still set a date and booked the venue within a week of our engagement.
Nothing wrong with planning ahead! 🙂
Post # 11
Definitely not – most wedding planning books I’ve looked at suggest booking things like that at least 7-8 months in advance, so get going asap before everything you want fills up! Your Fiance probably doesn’t realize how crazy the wedding industry is nor how long in advance weddings get planned.
Post # 12
I don’t think you’re jumping the gun at all! 7 months isn’t that long, but long enough if you start now. Although I havn’t planned a wedding yet lol.
Post # 13
I dont think its too early at all its 7months away! Try not to bombard the your guy with all the details at once. Maybe he just feels overwelmed.
Post # 14
There is no reason not to start now, especially on things like venue or photographer. Being on a weekday, you should still have plenty of options, but you’ll want to lock down the things that are important to you. Our wedding is at most a month after yours (and another Tuesday wedding, because the date is the anniversary of the day we met) and we have a venue, guest list (and save the dates sent out), and budget, but that’s all so far. I plan to look for a photographer now that the holidays are over, and we’ll have a food tasting to work on the menu next month, since the venue is doing the food. We are going fairly small and DIY for stuff we care about and can do (fiance is making the reception playlists, ceremony music will be done by relatives, I don’t want a bouquet and we are having the reception in a garden) so we don’t need many more vendors in our case.
Post # 15
I was engaged in Nov of 2010 and married this past July. Now is actually the time to plan. Some gitls plan for 18…24 months.
Post # 16
It’s absolutely NOT too early! I got the last open date at my venue for May ’12… in January ’11. Things book up fast! No worries.