(Closed) Am I reading into this wrong?

posted 6 years ago in LGBTQ
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

What was her response to your last comment? 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

If she has an issue with it find a new baker you dont want her not to do her best work because she has issues with it. Support the businesses that support our community a lot of things we choose were based on knowing before engaging that they are happy to serve our community 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Hi. I’m black and I would LOVE, LOVE, LOVE the option of asking people if they have a problem with me being black before I buy from them. But the question seems to be “reverse racist” and I don’t get the truth if I do ever have the nerve to ask it.

Do you feel that you get the truth from vendors or people when you ask them this question? Whether they have a problem serving your community? I really do wonder how these talks go because, like I said, I’m a minority, too. Was never taught that we can ask these type questions.

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper

I kind of don’t get what you are asking? Nowhere in her replies does it even suggest to me that she has an issue with same sex couples.

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2018

I don’t see anywhere she has implied she has a problem working with same sex couples either??

And she has also answered your question about a smaller cake – $4.50 per person plus $50 for delivery. 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@engNkhd:  I’m with the other ladies, I don’t understand why you asked if she has a problem with same sex couples. The question just seemed out of place (and quite frankly, inappropriate). You are purchasing a cake from her. That is her job – to bake a cake. Your sexual orientation has nothing to do with her job.
Oh, and I am over the top pro-same sex marriage even though I’m straight! This brings a huge smile to my face. Congrats to you!!!

Post # 9
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

I am also wondering where she said she has a problem with it, and she has answered your question about smaller cakes

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I don’t see any red flags in her replies at all. I’m wondering what she said that made you feel uncomfortable. I would just focus on whether her work and prices meet your needs, especially since you’ve had a tough time finding a baker you were excited about. I didn’t jive with all of our vendors on a personal level, but at the end of the day that didn’t really matter and we, for the most part, got exactly what we wanted/paid for. 

Of course, if you are still feeling uncomfortable, then you should go with your gut and keep looking. No reason to dampen your big day with uneasy feelings about a professional! 

Post # 11
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Busy bee

Don’t get it. Why even the need to ask.

Post # 12
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

@hiheel:  This has been addressed in other topics, but some same sex couples feel the need to ask because they don’t want to give their money to a business that has an objection against them. There’s always the argument that it’s a business and should not have any prejudices, but businesses are run by humans. 

OP,  I’m confused like the other posters. There’s no reply after you asked her about any problems with same sex couples. She answered your question and had no reaction to your use of your (feminine) name and your fiancee’s (feminine) name. Maybe she wasn’t paying attention, but I caught that you both have feminine names and would then assume that you were a same sex couple. What exactly is the problem here?

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’m confused; I didn’t see anything that gave the impression she wouldn’t want to work with you. 

Is it that she hasn’t responded since you asked the question about same sex couples?

 

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’m confused too. She gave you a quote, like you asked..she didn’t mention whether you were marrying a male/female. I don’t get it? 

Post # 15
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Busy bee

Maybe what engNkhd is trying to say is that after she dropped “SAME SEX WEDDING BOMB” the conversation stopped.  

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I can understand the need to ask, as I don’t like putting my money into a business that doesn’t support my values on this kind of thing. I’m a bit confused though at what you want us to be looking at?

I don’t think she answered the question about the small cake for just y’all, as $4.50/guest + $50 delivery is just the $500 estimate she gave for the 100 guests.

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