Post # 1
So I found a Baker for my wedding cake! Everything seems great until I drop the “same SEX WEDDING BOMB” on her… Maybe I am Being just a tad bit over analytical but I don’t think so… You tell me!
Some names and places have been changed in the email...lol
ME: Hey, I am from Rome Ga but getting married in **** on June 8th, 2013. I wanted to find out about your price range in cakes. I was looking on Google for a good baker around where I am getting married and was so disappointed and then I found you!!!! Your cakes look AMAZING and the detail on the cakes is just like something out of a magazine. Your lemon cupcake looked so so good lol! Anyway, I want a SMALL 3 tier wedding cake light ivory in color with regular frosting on it lol I am not crazy aboutfondantor gumpaste. I haven't decided on the decorations of the cake yet. So maybe just a ballpark figure to help me out because im not even sure what to expect... Thank you so much, Erica Garner
REPLY: Hi Erica! Congrats on your engagement! I love working with my fellow Romans :) Where is your reception going to be and how many people are you expecting? I can give you an accurate quote based on that information. Thanks! *****
ME: Hi, you know I just seen that you are from Rome. Haha that makes it even better. It would be just a small cake (3 tier). It would be for just us, hope and myself because im doing cheese cake also for the guests. Then maybe another quote for 100 guest too so I can weigh my options. The church information is:**** Its on June 8th 2013 at 3:30 in the afternoon.
Reply: Hi Erica, For 100 people and delivery the cake would be around $500. I start at $4.50 per guest and delivery would be $50.
ME: What about just the small one for just us? oh and do you have anything against working with same sex couples?
Post # 3
What was her response to your last comment?
Post # 4
If she has an issue with it find a new baker you dont want her not to do her best work because she has issues with it. Support the businesses that support our community a lot of things we choose were based on knowing before engaging that they are happy to serve our community
Post # 5
Hi. I’m black and I would LOVE, LOVE, LOVE the option of asking people if they have a problem with me being black before I buy from them. But the question seems to be “reverse racist” and I don’t get the truth if I do ever have the nerve to ask it.
Do you feel that you get the truth from vendors or people when you ask them this question? Whether they have a problem serving your community? I really do wonder how these talks go because, like I said, I’m a minority, too. Was never taught that we can ask these type questions.
Post # 6
I kind of don’t get what you are asking? Nowhere in her replies does it even suggest to me that she has an issue with same sex couples.
Post # 7
I don’t see anywhere she has implied she has a problem working with same sex couples either??
And she has also answered your question about a smaller cake – $4.50 per person plus $50 for delivery.
Post # 8
@engNkhd: I’m with the other ladies, I don’t understand why you asked if she has a problem with same sex couples. The question just seemed out of place (and quite frankly, inappropriate). You are purchasing a cake from her. That is her job – to bake a cake. Your sexual orientation has nothing to do with her job.
Oh, and I am over the top pro-same sex marriage even though I’m straight! This brings a huge smile to my face. Congrats to you!!!
Post # 9
I am also wondering where she said she has a problem with it, and she has answered your question about smaller cakes
Post # 10
I don’t see any red flags in her replies at all. I’m wondering what she said that made you feel uncomfortable. I would just focus on whether her work and prices meet your needs, especially since you’ve had a tough time finding a baker you were excited about. I didn’t jive with all of our vendors on a personal level, but at the end of the day that didn’t really matter and we, for the most part, got exactly what we wanted/paid for.
Of course, if you are still feeling uncomfortable, then you should go with your gut and keep looking. No reason to dampen your big day with uneasy feelings about a professional!
Post # 11
Don’t get it. Why even the need to ask.
Post # 12
@hiheel: This has been addressed in other topics, but some same sex couples feel the need to ask because they don’t want to give their money to a business that has an objection against them. There’s always the argument that it’s a business and should not have any prejudices, but businesses are run by humans.
OP, I’m confused like the other posters. There’s no reply after you asked her about any problems with same sex couples. She answered your question and had no reaction to your use of your (feminine) name and your fiancee’s (feminine) name. Maybe she wasn’t paying attention, but I caught that you both have feminine names and would then assume that you were a same sex couple. What exactly is the problem here?
Post # 13
I’m confused; I didn’t see anything that gave the impression she wouldn’t want to work with you.
Is it that she hasn’t responded since you asked the question about same sex couples?
Post # 14
I’m confused too. She gave you a quote, like you asked..she didn’t mention whether you were marrying a male/female. I don’t get it?
Post # 15
Maybe what engNkhd is trying to say is that after she dropped “SAME SEX WEDDING BOMB” the conversation stopped.
Post # 16
I can understand the need to ask, as I don’t like putting my money into a business that doesn’t support my values on this kind of thing. I’m a bit confused though at what you want us to be looking at?
I don’t think she answered the question about the small cake for just y’all, as $4.50/guest + $50 delivery is just the $500 estimate she gave for the 100 guests.